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A Brief Intimate Encounter

I had a brief and what for me was an intimate encounter with a man at my EL stop last week. We locked eyes and I felt his energy travel through my entire body, and then he stepped onto his train and was gone. I have never felt anything like this before and am wondering, […]

A Test From The Universe

 I work a 10 to 12 hour day at a job that I love and don’t have time for anything that isn’t related to work, certainly not a relationship. I promised myself that if I got my dream job that I wouldn’t ask for anything else. I kept my word and haven’t put much thought […]

Alignment Before Action

My roommate engages in all kinds of what I consider to be promiscuous sexual behavior uses drugs and frequently drinks alcohol in excess. She has no consequences not a STD a hang over or an overdose. Mystified, I asked her to justify her behavior and she said one word ‘alignment’ and then she handed me […]

Free Will

If you believe that we all have free will then what is the value of going to a fortune teller or a psychic reader? There are many reasons that people seek spiritual guidance. I believe that we are all born with a knowing. Choosing to access this knowing is what gives each and every one […]

What Is The Point Of Honesty

Why should we tell the truth if we know that it is going to cause the person pain and potentially put an end to an important relationship? This is an interesting question. I believe that it is important that we be honest and open with ourselves first and foremost. It is this ongoing relationship that […]

He Found Our Stash

My husband and I smoke marijuana recreationally. Yesterday our 14 year old son found our stash and confronted us asking if it was all right for him to smoke marijuana? We responded by saying that when he becomes an adult he can make that choice for himself. Should we have responded differently to our sons […]

An Inside Job

I look outside of myself as a way of gauging my feelings. If it is a sunny day and the stock market is up then I feel great. If however my girlfriend or my mother is upset with me I do not feel so good. My self esteem comes from how much I am valued […]

Where Do I Begin

I am ready to have a life partner after so many years of going it alone. My question is where do I begin? You have already begun through the identification of your new desire. Think not one moment about where you have been and instead begin moving directly onto envisioning, one detailed thought and feeling […]

Progressive Parenting

We just had our first child. I have been thinking about how I was raised with so much disapproval by both of my parents as their way of controlling me. I would like my husband and I to do things completely different. Ideally I would like to never use the word NO with our son.  […]

Recurring Fantasies

I have been having these crazy recurring fantasies about walking away from my life and not looking back. I haven’t allowed myself to go any further with these thoughts because they really scare me. What could this be all about? I would like to remind you of the definition of the word fantasy: The faculty […]

It Is True What They Say

It is true what they say “where ever you go there you are” I keep taking my same old patterns to every new situation whether it be a relationship, job or new living situation. How can I break this predictable and unwanted path that I am on? Yes it is true, where ever we go here […]

He Wants Me To Find A Lover

My husband has not been interested in sex since he lost his job 14 months ago. He begs me to go on one of those dating sites for married people and find a lover. He is consumed with guilt about neglecting the emotional and physical aspect of our marriage and he says that it is […]

What Is Going To Happen To Our Family

My parents are getting a divorce and I feel like my life is over. They have never fought in front of my sister and I and even though my dad travels a lot for work we never for one minute thought that they were having problems. My mom will not discuss the details about what […]

My Sense Of Self

I consider myself a serial monogamist. I go from relationship to relationship and how I feel about myself comes from how my relationship is going on any particular day. I have not been able to find my own sense of self outside the confines of a committed relationship. What’s a girl to do? From your […]

Have Never Prayed Harder For Anything

The happiest memories of my childhood are from the times spent with my mother. I was an extension of her and she loved and adored me with all of her heart. I wanted to be a mother myself one day too share this sweet relationship with my own child. I am 34 years old and […]

Worried For Our Mom

My parents got divorced when I was 13 and my brother was 14 and we have always lived with our mom and saw our dad some weekends when he wasn’t busy with his girlfriends. We are now 17 and 18 and our mom has not been out on one single date, that we know about. […]

A Dangerously Delightful Proposition

We consider ourselves the gang of six. It is me, my two best girlfriends and their husbands. We all got married and had our children at the same time, have gone on every spring vacation together and continue to celebrate our grown children’s highs and lows, together. My girlfriends and I are all turning 50 […]

Taking A Stance

Is there a difference between taking a stance and being clear? Great question! When we take a stance we are in essence proclaiming something. There tends to be a lot of resistance in that action. It is like we are having to completely reject one thing in order to accept another. Clarity feels different. When […]

Getting Our Needs Met

If we only have unconditional relationships with people how on earth do we ever get our needs met? The way that you have asked this question leads me to belive that you believe that our needs are meant to be met by others. I have a different senseability about this. Our choice to unconditionally love, […]

The Mantra In Our House

When I was growing up the mantra in our house was “be happy with what you have”. I have always been happy and always wanted more of everything for myself and my family. My parents saw me as an ungrateful only child and discouraged my desire to want more. As an adult I have become successful […]

Falling In Love

Why do I lose myself when I fall in love? Falling in love is such a beautiful thing and it is also a chemical thing. The research shows that when a person falls in love, 12 areas of the brain work together to release euphoria-inducing chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, adrenaline and vasopression.We can easily […]

Fantasy Land

I am very concerned about my college roommate who also happens to be my BFF. She spends all of her free time in some kind of fantasy land. We are not talking about your run of the mill daydream here, this is outright fantasy. The things that she thinks about is beyond anything that could […]

Vibrations That Are Not Our Own

What do you do when you know that you have picked up vibrations that are not your own? I love your question. We all have actually unconsciously picked up all kinds of vibrations from our family of origin that are not our own and have little to do with us. It is a wonderful opportunity […]

My Own Worst Enemy

I am my own worst enemy. I am engaged in an ongoing dialogue in my mind that never seems to stop. I often get so wrapped up in my own thoughts that I convince myself of things that have no basis in reality. This is particularly true regarding my closest interpersonal relationships. No matter how […]