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Love and Relationships

Jealousy Of Past Lovers

My current partner and I were sharing a very good level of of being together and trusting each other for about 18 months until last Aug. At that time I was using her computer and found rather explicit pictures of herself sent to her previous short term lover/possible partner of only 8 months duration. I […]

Am I Activating Old Stuff

Both of my parents are emotionally cut off from themselves. When I went off to college I found the emotional connection to myself. Over time I slowly learned to trust myself in most of my relationships until now. I am in a long term relationship with a guy who says all the right things and […]


I have done the unthinkable! We were drunk and I slept with my girlfriends fiance. OMG and WTF am I going to do? What kills me is that he will be having sex with other women and he is engaged to my soon to be x girlfriend. Do I warn her knowing that our friendship […]

Miss Having A Partner

I am a stay at home mom with 2 small children and I am completely miserable in my marriage. I feel like a single parent because my husband wants nothing to do with me and the children. He financially provides for our family yet is not the least bit interested in interacting with us. He […]

Hanging In The Balance

 I have a sense about my wife’s infidelities and have not known what to do about them. My fear is that if I do admit this to myself then I will have to do something about it and I am not sure that I am emotionally strong enough to do anything. I feel like my […]

Why Do I Keep Attracting Mr. Wrong

Why do I keep attracting the wrong man? I let them in my life, then they throw mean and hurtful things in my face. And they use my honesty against me. My latest is harassing me with phone calls. He won’t stop even after he’s been warned by the police. Another, is with me only […]

Lying And Cheating

My husband has been lying and cheating on me for god knows how long. How could I be so stupid to think that he could stay faithful to me with a job that takes him jet-setting around the globe? Now what? There are many ways that you can begin to process your disheartening discovery. The […]

A Test From The Universe

 I work a 10 to 12 hour day at a job that I love and don’t have time for anything that isn’t related to work, certainly not a relationship. I promised myself that if I got my dream job that I wouldn’t ask for anything else. I kept my word and haven’t put much thought […]

Checking Out Other Men

I am happily married yet find myself checking out other men like all of the time. What is wrong with me? Nothing is wrong with you. Just because your on a diet it does not mean that you cannot read the dessert menu. We can be physically attracted to many people and it does not […]

Alignment Before Action

My roommate engages in all kinds of what I consider to be promiscuous sexual behavior uses drugs and frequently drinks alcohol in excess. She has no consequences not a STD a hang over or an overdose. Mystified, I asked her to justify her behavior and she said one word ‘alignment’ and then she handed me […]

My Parents Marital Issues

After I graduated from college last year I landed the most incredible job. My parents set me up in a very chic two bedroom apartment that they bought as an investment in Manhattan. At their insistence I pay almost nothing in rent and they come into the city now and then and spend the weekend […]

Cannot Compete With Pornography

I have run out of ways to hold my boyfriends attention in the bedroom. I know that this is my issue and you are probably going to say that I am being insecure but I cannot compete with all the pornographic sites that I find him perusing. How can I trump something that is not […]

Where Do I Begin

I am ready to have a life partner after so many years of going it alone. My question is where do I begin? You have already begun through the identification of your new desire. Think not one moment about where you have been and instead begin moving directly onto envisioning, one detailed thought and feeling […]

A Open Sexual Relationship

I thought that I could be all open and shit and handle a open sexual relationship with this girl that I have been seeing. It was all fine and good until I would run into her and she was with another guy. I am pissed at myself for not being secure enough to handle this […]

Should I Stay Or Should I Go

I really do not want to be married any longer but I am afraid of splitting up our family. My own mother left my father when my sisters and I were little and I always resented her for that. I thought that my parents should have worked things out between themselves and kept us all […]

Showing Up Offline

I am really good at having online relationships with men and not so good when it comes to having the real thing. I can hide my slightly overweight body and less than perfect skin and feel really confident from my laptop but, I completely lose my sense of confidence when I am interacting with them […]

A Roller Coaster Ride

I always thought that whatever problems we had, my wife and I would work them out. Our eight years of marriage has been a roller coaster ride of the biggest highs and the lowest lows. We fight and then make up. This has been our life. She suddenly wants a divorce but I do not […]

Is There No End In Sight

I knew one year into my 18 month long relationship that things were unraveling. I finally had the good sense to pack up my things and leave, physically that is. I say this because I cannot stop myself from thinking and rethinking about every detail of the last six months of being together with this man. […]

Looking For Love

I am looking for a loving, spiritually connected, financially abundant, handsome, and all around great man to spend my life with. All of my married and unmarried friends say ‘good luck with that.’ I refuse to go to that place they all call the ‘real world’ of relationships. I want to attract this man into […]

It Is True What They Say

It is true what they say “where ever you go there you are” I keep taking my same old patterns to every new situation whether it be a relationship, job or new living situation. How can I break this predictable and unwanted path that I am on? Yes it is true, where ever we go here […]

My Alcoholic Parents

I started telling stories about my family in the second grade. It was then that I began to understand that my parents were different from the other kids parents. Both of my parents are alcoholics. I have spent my childhood, adolescents as well as a good portion of my adulthood trying to cover up this […]

Here Goes Everything

Dearest Jamie, I am having a delicious affair with a loving, oh so adoring and extremely attentive unmarried man who is 10 years younger than myself. I cannot remember when I have felt this happy. I keep waiting for the guilt and self hatred to set in, but it is not happening. If anything I am […]

He Wants Me To Find A Lover

My husband has not been interested in sex since he lost his job 14 months ago. He begs me to go on one of those dating sites for married people and find a lover. He is consumed with guilt about neglecting the emotional and physical aspect of our marriage and he says that it is […]

What About My Wife

I found the love of my life my sophomore year in High School. We dated until we both went off to college in different parts of the country. I thought about her all the time but we never reconnected until now, thirty years later. We found each other on Facebook and it has been life […]