OMG and WTF
I have done the unthinkable! We were drunk and I slept with my girlfriends fiance. OMG and WTF am I going to do? What kills me is that he will be having sex with other women and he is engaged to my soon to be x girlfriend. Do I warn her knowing that our friendship […]
Hanging In The Balance
I have a sense about my wife’s infidelities and have not known what to do about them. My fear is that if I do admit this to myself then I will have to do something about it and I am not sure that I am emotionally strong enough to do anything. I feel like my […]
Lying And Cheating
My husband has been lying and cheating on me for god knows how long. How could I be so stupid to think that he could stay faithful to me with a job that takes him jet-setting around the globe? Now what? There are many ways that you can begin to process your disheartening discovery. The […]
My Parents Marital Issues
After I graduated from college last year I landed the most incredible job. My parents set me up in a very chic two bedroom apartment that they bought as an investment in Manhattan. At their insistence I pay almost nothing in rent and they come into the city now and then and spend the weekend […]
Here Goes Everything
Dearest Jamie, I am having a delicious affair with a loving, oh so adoring and extremely attentive unmarried man who is 10 years younger than myself. I cannot remember when I have felt this happy. I keep waiting for the guilt and self hatred to set in, but it is not happening. If anything I am […]
He Wants Me To Find A Lover
My husband has not been interested in sex since he lost his job 14 months ago. He begs me to go on one of those dating sites for married people and find a lover. He is consumed with guilt about neglecting the emotional and physical aspect of our marriage and he says that it is […]
What About My Wife
I found the love of my life my sophomore year in High School. We dated until we both went off to college in different parts of the country. I thought about her all the time but we never reconnected until now, thirty years later. We found each other on Facebook and it has been life […]
My Unfaithful Husband
After almost 40 years of marriage I just discovered that my husband has been unfaithful. He admitted to me that he has been so at different times during our marriage but currently this is not one of them. This discovery came to my attention a few days before one of our grown children was to […]
How Can I Control Myself
It happens especially when I am in a great relationship with the perfect women, which I am now. I get restless and wreck less. I stray from my secure relationship and am out on the prowl for hot sex. I have ruined many good relationships because of this almost uncontrollable, immature sexual urge. I just […]
Abundantly Clear
I have been intimately involved with a married man for 3 years. His wife has MS and from the beginning of our sexual relationship he made his position abundantly clear to me. He loves her and will never leave her. I went into this relationship with my eyes wide open but I believe that I […]
She Has A Right To know
I live in New Jersey and take the train into NYC for my job. My co-worker lives in NYC and we have a nice rapport with one another. We casually chat about our spouses but I have never met her husband, only seen photos of him on her desk. I recently saw him in my […]
Totally Devastated
I caught my wife cheating on me last Valentine’s Day and we are now divorced. I threw myself into my job and thought that I had put it all behind me. As the February 14th holiday approaches I am obsessed with the details of that day that I found them together. I cannot stop myself […]
Open Marriage
What are your views on open marriage? Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. If this is what you mean by an open marriage then I believe that it is quite possible to have […]
I Cheated On My Wife
I cheated on my wife and I cannot forgive myself even though she has forgiven me. Can you help me? Forgiveness is one of the keys to your own happiness. When you are able to forgive yourself you are then able to forgive others. Forgiveness is a release. When you can release your feelings of […]
Are Men Just Hardwired To Cheat?
Why do spouses have affairs. Are men just hardwired to cheat? Men are hardwired for sex, sex and more sex. However men are not hardwired to cheat. I believe that when “spouses have affairs” it has more to do with a breakdown in communication with themselves first and then with their spouse or partner. Cheating […]
Is He Having An Affair
I just found out that my husband of almost 7 years has been having an online long distance relationship with another married women. He promises me that they have never seen each other in person which I actually believe because my husband works from home and does not travel. My question is this? Does his […]
