Safe Sex
I am a 56 year old recently divorced women who has been out of the dating scene for a very long time. What are your thoughts about who should have the condoms available for safe sex. Do I carry them with me or do I assume that these men that I am going to date […]
Vivid Dreams
My mother had a peaceful transition six months ago. For the past week I have been having vivd dreams. In these dreams it seems as if she is trying to tell me something. I wake up in the night in a cold sweat completely freaked out. Is it possible that she is trying to tell […]
How Can I Control Myself
It happens especially when I am in a great relationship with the perfect women, which I am now. I get restless and wreck less. I stray from my secure relationship and am out on the prowl for hot sex. I have ruined many good relationships because of this almost uncontrollable, immature sexual urge. I just […]
Into The Light
From the depths of my darkness I emerged into the light. I feel happier, lighter and everything appears brighter. My problem is that my friends now think that I think that I am just to good for them all because I haven’t much to contribute these days to the negative tone of most conversations that […]
Needing Other People
Do you think that it is possible to become so happy being in our own company that we stop needing other people? I believe that when we have a connected loving relationship with our selves which stems from the ongoing internal conversation that we go on to have with our selves, we feel good. From […]
Please Help Me
Please help me. I am in a emotionally abusive relationship and cannot find any power in knowing this. In fact I hate myself for not having the guts to leave. How is knowing and not doing anything about it having power? I would like to assist you in better understanding the power of having access […]
“The Truth”
Why is it so hard for people to tell the truth? I feel like everyone is so fake. We are coached from a very early age to tell people what they want to hear instead of what we are actually feeling and thinking. This way of communicating tends to follow us into our adult lives. […]
People Pleaser
I am and have always been a “people pleaser.” I hear my own inner voice but I do not listen to it often. I am afraid that if I am true to myself that I will end up all alone. How can I become true to myself without setting other peoples needs aside. This is an interesting […]
Abundantly Clear
I have been intimately involved with a married man for 3 years. His wife has MS and from the beginning of our sexual relationship he made his position abundantly clear to me. He loves her and will never leave her. I went into this relationship with my eyes wide open but I believe that I […]
Sexual Pleasure
When is sexual pleasure with multiple partners considered to be promiscuity The definition of the word promiscuous as well as the inference implies that of someone whom is indiscriminate, casual and somehow haphazard or irresponsible. The judgement within this adjective is completely contrary to the word and meaning of pleasure. We can certainly choose to […]
Not Feeling Confident & Sexy
I have been 60 lbs over weight for most of my adult life. Last year on my 37th birthday at the strong suggestion of my MD I began a diet and exercise program and have lost almost all of the weight. My friends and family told me that I was going to have more confidence […]
Taking Their Own Life
Why would someone who has everything, a loving family, financial stability and more friends then god take their own life? It is one of the most difficult things for the people who have been left behind to wrap their minds and hearts around. I believe that each and every one of us come into this […]
My 10 Year Old Daughter
My daughter is 10 years old, in fifth grade and is very much her own person. She does not appear interested in what the ”popular girls” are wearing or what they are doing socially on the weekends. She floats in and out of different groups without a best or close friend and seems very happy […]
She Has A Right To know
I live in New Jersey and take the train into NYC for my job. My co-worker lives in NYC and we have a nice rapport with one another. We casually chat about our spouses but I have never met her husband, only seen photos of him on her desk. I recently saw him in my […]
Am I Just Being Naive
My fiance is going to Las Vegas for his friends bachelor party and despite what my girlfriends say about “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” I am not at all worried. Am I being as naive as they tell me I am being ? It is funny how everyone, especially our friends often have […]
How To Bring Her Comfort
A dear friend of mine has cancer. She will have surgery soon. What can I say to her that will bring her comfort? I have such a strong feeling that she will be okay. This can be tricky. Sometimes the people in our lives that we care so much about and are experiencing disease and […]
A Great Mystery
Why do people stay in miserable relationships for so long and sometimes forever? Great question! Some people do not even realize that they are miserable and because they have been at it for so long are unaware that there may be something better for them. Oh, they look out into the world and can sometimes […]
Not Another Fling
I met up with a guy last night that I’ve known for over two years but haven’t seen him in almost a year. He had just ended a live-in relationship with someone two weeks ago, although he said he had decided he was “out” of the relationship six months ago. He was sweet and we had […]
Am I Turning Gay
I am a junior in college and for as long as I can remember I have only been interested in guys. I was involved in 2 long term relationships that both ended in friendships. The thing is that lately I have find myself feeling physically attracted to girls. I have friends that are lesbians and […]
Not Always But Sometimes…
Not always, but sometimes I choose foods that are not the healthiest of choices. I know it, because after I eat them, I feel tired. Is this a way that I “don’t take care of myself” or “abuse” myself? I ask because I am trying to attract my ideal mate and I wonder if I am […]
Our Child Is A Bully
We have a big problem with our 12 year old son who has become a regular bully at school. We have been called in to meet with the principal and the school counselor and they are both recommending that we take our son to therapy so that this issue can be addressed. My husband and […]
What Should I Do?
We are empty nesters and my husband does not talk with me. He talks at me and sometimes to me but this is mostly happening when his head is buried in the newspaper, or when he is on his computer or surfing through emails and text messages on his phone. I have suggested to him […]
Totally Devastated
I caught my wife cheating on me last Valentine’s Day and we are now divorced. I threw myself into my job and thought that I had put it all behind me. As the February 14th holiday approaches I am obsessed with the details of that day that I found them together. I cannot stop myself […]
