Losing Her Virginity
If a women loses her virginity, does it mean that she no longer deserves to be respected? I have always thought about virginity as something that you give away happily and willingly. We must honor and cherish ourselves; both of which fall into the category of deeply respecting ourselves. It is a beautiful thing when […]
The Mantra In Our House
When I was growing up the mantra in our house was “be happy with what you have”. I have always been happy and always wanted more of everything for myself and my family. My parents saw me as an ungrateful only child and discouraged my desire to want more. As an adult I have become successful […]
Falling In Love
Why do I lose myself when I fall in love? Falling in love is such a beautiful thing and it is also a chemical thing. The research shows that when a person falls in love, 12 areas of the brain work together to release euphoria-inducing chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, adrenaline and vasopression.We can easily […]
Vibrations That Are Not Our Own
What do you do when you know that you have picked up vibrations that are not your own? I love your question. We all have actually unconsciously picked up all kinds of vibrations from our family of origin that are not our own and have little to do with us. It is a wonderful opportunity […]
My Own Worst Enemy
I am my own worst enemy. I am engaged in an ongoing dialogue in my mind that never seems to stop. I often get so wrapped up in my own thoughts that I convince myself of things that have no basis in reality. This is particularly true regarding my closest interpersonal relationships. No matter how […]
My Unfaithful Husband
After almost 40 years of marriage I just discovered that my husband has been unfaithful. He admitted to me that he has been so at different times during our marriage but currently this is not one of them. This discovery came to my attention a few days before one of our grown children was to […]
Truth
Is it just too much to expect people to tell the truth? This is such an interesting question. I believe that there is a very clear distinction to be made between our own individual truths and “the truth”. Our own individual truths are continually changing and are most often identified by ourselves through the connection […]
Their Choices Have Consequences
How do we as parents make our children understand that the choices they make today have consequences that will effect their entire lives? I do not believe that we can make our children do anything. What I do believe is that we can assist our children in tuning into themselves and trusting themselves to make […]
Life Long Issue With Weight
My mother has been battling with her weight for as long as I have been alive and old enough to be aware of it which was age 5. I am now 32 years old. She has tried every diet known to man kind. This is my confusion, every time my mom begins to have some […]
Turning My Dream Into Reality
Hi Jamie. I am a big fan of your website. You make me feel that this is a safe place to share my dream and ask you if there is anything more that I should do before I make it my reality. Here goes: I am tall, skinny and flat as a board. I have […]
What Takes Us So Long
When I met my boyfriend I believed that he was perfect. Everything he did, everything he did not do, it seemed perfect to me. Now he has changed and all I see is how un-perfect he is. What takes us so long to really see the person for who they are? Your question is very […]
Allowing Parents
My parents were very strict and controlling with both myself and my siblings. I was the black sheep of the family. I broke free and became somewhat wild throughout my teen age years. I knew that I was going to trust my own children and let them be free to experience life. My husband and […]
Safe Sex
I am a 56 year old recently divorced women who has been out of the dating scene for a very long time. What are your thoughts about who should have the condoms available for safe sex. Do I carry them with me or do I assume that these men that I am going to date […]
How Can I Control Myself
It happens especially when I am in a great relationship with the perfect women, which I am now. I get restless and wreck less. I stray from my secure relationship and am out on the prowl for hot sex. I have ruined many good relationships because of this almost uncontrollable, immature sexual urge. I just […]
Into The Light
From the depths of my darkness I emerged into the light. I feel happier, lighter and everything appears brighter. My problem is that my friends now think that I think that I am just to good for them all because I haven’t much to contribute these days to the negative tone of most conversations that […]
Convincing My Own Mind
My mind is very busy and seems to run away with itself. I have tried like the dickens to slow down the barrage of self sabotaging thoughts that I find myself having throughout my days and nights. The crazy thing is that I have many good things going for me in my life right now. […]
Politics Are Killing My Marriage
When my wife and I married we agreed to take two subjects off of the table politics and religion. This has worked well for us up until these past few months. We abandoned our agreement and now both of these subjects are putting considerable distance between us in our marriage. How can I stop reacting […]
Needing Other People
Do you think that it is possible to become so happy being in our own company that we stop needing other people? I believe that when we have a connected loving relationship with our selves which stems from the ongoing internal conversation that we go on to have with our selves, we feel good. From […]
Please Help Me
Please help me. I am in a emotionally abusive relationship and cannot find any power in knowing this. In fact I hate myself for not having the guts to leave. How is knowing and not doing anything about it having power? I would like to assist you in better understanding the power of having access […]
Revelation
I have been going to therapy for almost one year and am feeling as if it is time for me to take a break. My problem is that I am concerned about how my therapist will take this revelation of mine. I would like to think that it is partially because of your therapy that […]
“The Truth”
Why is it so hard for people to tell the truth? I feel like everyone is so fake. We are coached from a very early age to tell people what they want to hear instead of what we are actually feeling and thinking. This way of communicating tends to follow us into our adult lives. […]
People Pleaser
I am and have always been a “people pleaser.” I hear my own inner voice but I do not listen to it often. I am afraid that if I am true to myself that I will end up all alone. How can I become true to myself without setting other peoples needs aside. This is an interesting […]
What A 2 Faced Bitch
My boss calls me into her office at least once a month to tell me what a nice job that I am doing. She then goes on a 5 minute rampage about my two co-workers beginning with how they dress, speak and finally venting her feelings about their overall incompetence.You would never know that she […]
Abundantly Clear
I have been intimately involved with a married man for 3 years. His wife has MS and from the beginning of our sexual relationship he made his position abundantly clear to me. He loves her and will never leave her. I went into this relationship with my eyes wide open but I believe that I […]
