How Can I Kick This Habit
I sometimes experiences a withdrawal-like feeling when I haven’t spoken to certain people in a few days. Sometimes it can be one or two days, sometimes more. It feels like what I experienced when I quit cigarette smoking many years ago. My nicotine fix was obviously a sort of drug-dependency. So what about this need to verbally connect […]
Am I Going Crazy?
My wife, the love of my life died 2 years ago in a car accident. We worked together, played together and her breath was my breath. I cannot mourn for her because I can still feel her, smell her, hear her. My friends and family are very concerned about me and think that I am […]
Shocked And Ashamed
I am shocked. I feel ashamed. I am well known in a popular industry and stunned to find that my son, a “hunk” in another big medium, got fully unclothed and aroused on a well-watched show. By all appearances there was no stand-in person. I want nothing to do with my son, the show, and […]
Losing Myself
I am really on top of my game when it comes to taking care of myself, as long as I am not in any kind of intimate relationship. As soon as I get involved with someone that I care about I seem to lose myself and focus all of my attention on the other person […]
Moment Of Truth
I have run out of reasons to stay in my marriage of 18 years. Our daughter leaves for college in the fall and this is the “moment of truth” for me. The funny thing is that I thought that this opportunity I have been focusing on for so long would feel different- more exciting, and […]
All Consumed?
I am consumed with a women that does not even know that I exist. We work together in the same large office and I spend a fair amount of time finding any excuse possible to pass by her desk on the way to the break room which is also on the way to the bathroom […]
Trusted Employee And Friend
I have a longstanding, trusted employee of nearly two decades who gave their termination notice, less than a few days before leave. My employee is a friend, as well. Maybe I should say, was. Our families get together for small and large celebrations. We do fun things together. Over what I guess is a long […]
New Year’s Eve?
I am a 25 year old professional in the financial world. I work hard and party even harder. I go out most weekends with girlfriends to clubs and bars and just let loose, literally. It is not unusual for me to wake up in a mans bed who I met that evening. My M. O. […]
Why Do I Do This?
Why do I find myself doing the same things to others that were done to me by my father that I swore to myself I would never do? What we know is not who we are. Our experiences with and from our family of origin often becomes what we know and most often has little […]
The Marriage Is Over
How do I stop blaming myself for the end of my marriage Lets do the math. I would give myself one minute for everyday that I was in my marriage to blame myself, hate myself, berate myself. So if you have been married 20 years that comes out to about 7,300 minutes or 121.66 hours. […]
Stuck In Self Sabotage
I have identified my patterns of self sabotage and that is as far as I ever get. I am stuck ! Where is that “small opening of light” that you refer to? I believe that identifying any pattern of thought/behavior about oneself is always a good thing, and I also believe that it can become […]
How Can I Tell My Kids Without Worrying Them?
I wish to let my kids know that I missed my payment arrangements for Medicare at the bank. I was ill on the day I was supposed to go there. Medicare is my only insurance. It has been six months now. I no longer have it. I pay for my pills and appointments with cash. […]
I AM 18
I am 18. I am a pretty happy person and I live in a pretty unhappy home. I do not know what to do. My parents will not allow me to move out until I turn 21, they just told me. When I ask other people what to do until then, I always get “go […]
I Am Stuck
What is wrong with me? I have been in a dead end relationship now for 11, yes thats 11 years. I promise and promise myself that I will end things with my partner and I am still here. Now it is the holidays again and my newest excuse which is actually 11 years old, is […]
My New Sexual Identity
I am recently divorced, with primary custody of our teenagers, and I do not know how to let my former spouse and teens know that I identify myself as bisexual. This is new for me as well as for them. Please advise. Thank you! I would like to suggest to you that before you discuss […]
Do We All Have A Shot?
I am a successful nice looking 41 year old single man. I go out with a lot of beautiful interesting women but do not feel compelled to start a lasting relationship with any of them. Part of me thinks that I should be more practical because I want to get married and have a family […]
Is He Having An Affair
I just found out that my husband of almost 7 years has been having an online long distance relationship with another married women. He promises me that they have never seen each other in person which I actually believe because my husband works from home and does not travel. My question is this? Does his […]
However
I consider myself to be a “straight” individual however So I assume by your question that you have either engaged in sexual fantasies about a same sex partner and or your sexual attraction and curiosity has led you to having a physical experience with a same sex partner. I believe that this is a very […]
Knee jerking
What is the best way to stop inner doubt and old knee jerk reactions to outside occurrences? I notice that I will often respond to “unpleasant” news, situations, interactions, etc. with anger or victim-like consciousness. Later after I cool off or clear my head I can see it in a better light, but my initial […]
