My Sense Of Self
I consider myself a serial monogamist. I go from relationship to relationship and how I feel about myself comes from how my relationship is going on any particular day. I have not been able to find my own sense of self outside the confines of a committed relationship. What’s a girl to do? From your […]
Feeling Lonely Most Of The Time
I feel lonely most of the time. I go through the motions at my job and with my friends but It all seems pointless. I have thought about what I am doing here and nothing really comes to mind. If this is going to be my life I am not sure that I want to […]
Have Never Prayed Harder For Anything
The happiest memories of my childhood are from the times spent with my mother. I was an extension of her and she loved and adored me with all of her heart. I wanted to be a mother myself one day too share this sweet relationship with my own child. I am 34 years old and […]
Worried For Our Mom
My parents got divorced when I was 13 and my brother was 14 and we have always lived with our mom and saw our dad some weekends when he wasn’t busy with his girlfriends. We are now 17 and 18 and our mom has not been out on one single date, that we know about. […]
Searching For My Place In This Lifetime
Do think that we are all here to do or be something special. I am searching to find my place and purpose in this lifetime. Would you offer me some guidance? Yes, I do believe that we all come here in physical to have a spiritual experience. I also believe that each and every one […]
Wanting Verification
My sister is one of those people who looks on the bright side of every situation. I really appreciated that about her when we were growing up. The problem is that now I cannot get her to admit to having had the same horribly dysfunctional childhood that I know for a fact that we both […]
Taking A Stance
Is there a difference between taking a stance and being clear? Great question! When we take a stance we are in essence proclaiming something. There tends to be a lot of resistance in that action. It is like we are having to completely reject one thing in order to accept another. Clarity feels different. When […]
It Is All About The Sex
It is not all about the sex, but it is all about the sex. Every since that starry summer night when my totally hot 18 year old neighbor sweetly introduced me to sex (upon my request) I have used sex as the emotional gateway to the connection with myself. It is the sex that drives […]
Getting Our Needs Met
If we only have unconditional relationships with people how on earth do we ever get our needs met? The way that you have asked this question leads me to belive that you believe that our needs are meant to be met by others. I have a different senseability about this. Our choice to unconditionally love, […]
Lost in Expectation
I find myself judging everyone and wanting them to be more like myself- polite, communicative and respectful. Is this really asking so much of the human race? It is my belief that we have not come here to change anyone. What we have come here to do is relax into the essence of who […]
Career Change
I have been living on my own since leaving my dysfunctional alcoholic mother and her big time loser live in boyfriend. As a straight A student in high school I used to dream about going to college and actually making something of myself. I have been supporting myself by waitressing at a diner in the […]
My Double Life
I have always felt as if I am living a double life. Where I came from is not anywhere that anyone that I know could ever imagine or understand. I have successfully escaped the nightmare that I call ‘my childhood’, so I thought. The identity that I have created for myself is reflected in my […]
Losing Her Virginity
If a women loses her virginity, does it mean that she no longer deserves to be respected? I have always thought about virginity as something that you give away happily and willingly. We must honor and cherish ourselves; both of which fall into the category of deeply respecting ourselves. It is a beautiful thing when […]
The Mantra In Our House
When I was growing up the mantra in our house was “be happy with what you have”. I have always been happy and always wanted more of everything for myself and my family. My parents saw me as an ungrateful only child and discouraged my desire to want more. As an adult I have become successful […]
Falling In Love
Why do I lose myself when I fall in love? Falling in love is such a beautiful thing and it is also a chemical thing. The research shows that when a person falls in love, 12 areas of the brain work together to release euphoria-inducing chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, adrenaline and vasopression.We can easily […]
My Own Worst Enemy
I am my own worst enemy. I am engaged in an ongoing dialogue in my mind that never seems to stop. I often get so wrapped up in my own thoughts that I convince myself of things that have no basis in reality. This is particularly true regarding my closest interpersonal relationships. No matter how […]
My Unfaithful Husband
After almost 40 years of marriage I just discovered that my husband has been unfaithful. He admitted to me that he has been so at different times during our marriage but currently this is not one of them. This discovery came to my attention a few days before one of our grown children was to […]
Their Choices Have Consequences
How do we as parents make our children understand that the choices they make today have consequences that will effect their entire lives? I do not believe that we can make our children do anything. What I do believe is that we can assist our children in tuning into themselves and trusting themselves to make […]
Life Long Issue With Weight
My mother has been battling with her weight for as long as I have been alive and old enough to be aware of it which was age 5. I am now 32 years old. She has tried every diet known to man kind. This is my confusion, every time my mom begins to have some […]
Turning My Dream Into Reality
Hi Jamie. I am a big fan of your website. You make me feel that this is a safe place to share my dream and ask you if there is anything more that I should do before I make it my reality. Here goes: I am tall, skinny and flat as a board. I have […]
What Takes Us So Long
When I met my boyfriend I believed that he was perfect. Everything he did, everything he did not do, it seemed perfect to me. Now he has changed and all I see is how un-perfect he is. What takes us so long to really see the person for who they are? Your question is very […]
Allowing Parents
My parents were very strict and controlling with both myself and my siblings. I was the black sheep of the family. I broke free and became somewhat wild throughout my teen age years. I knew that I was going to trust my own children and let them be free to experience life. My husband and […]
