Losing Myself
I am really on top of my game when it comes to taking care of myself, as long as I am not in any kind of intimate relationship. As soon as I get involved with someone that I care about I seem to lose myself and focus all of my attention on the other person […]
My 15 Year Old Daughter
My 15 year old daughter is bright, beautiful and has a good head on her shoulders. The group of friends that she is running with these days are all beginning to experiment with marijuana. I totally trust her but am wondering if I should talk to her and if so what should I say? How […]
Trusted Employee And Friend
I have a longstanding, trusted employee of nearly two decades who gave their termination notice, less than a few days before leave. My employee is a friend, as well. Maybe I should say, was. Our families get together for small and large celebrations. We do fun things together. Over what I guess is a long […]
Making This More Comfortable for Me?
I love my new apartment! It’s gorgeous, bright, airy, and spacious. My roommate seems nice enough, but never talks. If she does, it’s two word answers or just very matter of fact and short. When we have to communicate over e-mail, she gives the briefest of responses.I’m not sure if she’s moody, curt, or just […]
As Her Father And A Christian?
I just found out that my teenage daughter has been engaging in prostitution to support herself and her two year-old child. As her father (and a christian), I am mortified by the thought of my little girl selling her body and her soul. I am naturally very concerned about the effects this will have on […]
Being In Our Joy
Yesterday I reached out and with all my heart, I asked the Universe to let me hear from a friend that I hadn’t heard from. I literally put my head in my hands, my head down at my desk at work, and closed my eyes and felt so deeply how great it would be to […]
The Marriage Is Over
How do I stop blaming myself for the end of my marriage Lets do the math. I would give myself one minute for everyday that I was in my marriage to blame myself, hate myself, berate myself. So if you have been married 20 years that comes out to about 7,300 minutes or 121.66 hours. […]
Estranged From My Grown Children
My grown kids haven’t spoken to me in 2 years, as the holidays approach I get very sad they are not in my life. How am I going to get through the next 2 weeks? Any suggestions? I can imagine how difficult this is for you. Please understand that It can only be their own disconnection from […]
How Can I Parent Her?
My daughter can be so happy & open one minute and disrespectful with a bad tone in her voice the next. Usually she will turn nice if she wants something. Then when I try to help her organize herself so she can study better for tests or projects she turns nasty. It seems that past experiences […]
I AM 18
I am 18. I am a pretty happy person and I live in a pretty unhappy home. I do not know what to do. My parents will not allow me to move out until I turn 21, they just told me. When I ask other people what to do until then, I always get “go […]
Home For The Holidays WTF
The holidays are a really weird time for me. I have a lot of fun with my family but sometimes the dis-function is way to overwhelming. Most recently, during thanksgiving, I kept asking myself “who the fuck are these people?” How can I maintain a connection with my family (who I often feel totally at […]
What Kind Of Expert Are You?
I have watched many episodes of the Living Consciously cable t.v. show that you are in and you always open the show by saying that “living consciously is a lovely option.” How are we going to make a real difference in this world if we do not live a conscious life. Are you not an […]
“The Truth” Is Not Necessarily Your Truth
My father is a devout (many would say obsessed) Christian, and has disowned and excommunicated me because I do not share his spiritual perspective. He is sick and dying, and I wonder if it is OK to lie to him about my belief in the Judeo-Christian God, just so that we can have a relationship […]
A United Front for the Kids?
My husband and I have very different ways of thinking about everything including how to parent our 9 and 11 year old children. We have long ago given up on creating a united front for them and have simply allowed our children to come to each of us individually based upon their needs to get […]
