Am I Going Crazy?
My wife, the love of my life died 2 years ago in a car accident. We worked together, played together and her breath was my breath. I cannot mourn for her because I can still feel her, smell her, hear her. My friends and family are very concerned about me and think that I am […]
Shocked And Ashamed
I am shocked. I feel ashamed. I am well known in a popular industry and stunned to find that my son, a “hunk” in another big medium, got fully unclothed and aroused on a well-watched show. By all appearances there was no stand-in person. I want nothing to do with my son, the show, and […]
Open Marriage
What are your views on open marriage? Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. If this is what you mean by an open marriage then I believe that it is quite possible to have […]
Missing Someone?
Sometimes if you haven’t seen or spoken to someone, you think of them and “miss” them. Sometimes that missing can be a reminder of how much fun you have with them. Sometimes that missing can feel painful. So, what is this “missing” really about? I think it natural to want to be with someone you […]
Trusted Employee And Friend
I have a longstanding, trusted employee of nearly two decades who gave their termination notice, less than a few days before leave. My employee is a friend, as well. Maybe I should say, was. Our families get together for small and large celebrations. We do fun things together. Over what I guess is a long […]
Making This More Comfortable for Me?
I love my new apartment! It’s gorgeous, bright, airy, and spacious. My roommate seems nice enough, but never talks. If she does, it’s two word answers or just very matter of fact and short. When we have to communicate over e-mail, she gives the briefest of responses.I’m not sure if she’s moody, curt, or just […]
New Year’s Eve?
I am a 25 year old professional in the financial world. I work hard and party even harder. I go out most weekends with girlfriends to clubs and bars and just let loose, literally. It is not unusual for me to wake up in a mans bed who I met that evening. My M. O. […]
What Should I Say To Her?
My spouse of 7 years surprised me when, after I got sick, she took care of our kids and me for the week. I mean totally. For the life of me I never imagined this could happen. She does a wonderful job managing our kids, and she has repeatedly said our 2 are all she […]
Being In Our Joy
Yesterday I reached out and with all my heart, I asked the Universe to let me hear from a friend that I hadn’t heard from. I literally put my head in my hands, my head down at my desk at work, and closed my eyes and felt so deeply how great it would be to […]
Estranged From My Grown Children
My grown kids haven’t spoken to me in 2 years, as the holidays approach I get very sad they are not in my life. How am I going to get through the next 2 weeks? Any suggestions? I can imagine how difficult this is for you. Please understand that It can only be their own disconnection from […]
Stuck In Self Sabotage
I have identified my patterns of self sabotage and that is as far as I ever get. I am stuck ! Where is that “small opening of light” that you refer to? I believe that identifying any pattern of thought/behavior about oneself is always a good thing, and I also believe that it can become […]
I Cheated On My Wife
I cheated on my wife and I cannot forgive myself even though she has forgiven me. Can you help me? Forgiveness is one of the keys to your own happiness. When you are able to forgive yourself you are then able to forgive others. Forgiveness is a release. When you can release your feelings of […]
I Am Stuck
What is wrong with me? I have been in a dead end relationship now for 11, yes thats 11 years. I promise and promise myself that I will end things with my partner and I am still here. Now it is the holidays again and my newest excuse which is actually 11 years old, is […]
Sex And The Brain
What is that feeling after being with a lover and having a luscious time with them? It almost feels like being “in love”. I feel like I’m floating and happy and easy breezy. It feels great. If I don’t see my lover again for awhile, does that feeling have to leave – how can I […]
Do We All Have A Shot?
I am a successful nice looking 41 year old single man. I go out with a lot of beautiful interesting women but do not feel compelled to start a lasting relationship with any of them. Part of me thinks that I should be more practical because I want to get married and have a family […]
“The Truth” Is Not Necessarily Your Truth
My father is a devout (many would say obsessed) Christian, and has disowned and excommunicated me because I do not share his spiritual perspective. He is sick and dying, and I wonder if it is OK to lie to him about my belief in the Judeo-Christian God, just so that we can have a relationship […]
Why Is She So Fine All of the Time?
I am the luckiest man ever. I have a drop dead gorgeous girlfriend who is attentive, understanding, trusting, and loving. She encourages me to spend time with my guy friends, she is never disappointed or let down by me or anyone else. No matter what I do or do not do it seems that she […]
