Open Marriage
What are your views on open marriage? Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. If this is what you mean by an open marriage then I believe that it is quite possible to have […]
Losing Myself
I am really on top of my game when it comes to taking care of myself, as long as I am not in any kind of intimate relationship. As soon as I get involved with someone that I care about I seem to lose myself and focus all of my attention on the other person […]
Missing Someone?
Sometimes if you haven’t seen or spoken to someone, you think of them and “miss” them. Sometimes that missing can be a reminder of how much fun you have with them. Sometimes that missing can feel painful. So, what is this “missing” really about? I think it natural to want to be with someone you […]
My 15 Year Old Daughter
My 15 year old daughter is bright, beautiful and has a good head on her shoulders. The group of friends that she is running with these days are all beginning to experiment with marijuana. I totally trust her but am wondering if I should talk to her and if so what should I say? How […]
Moment Of Truth
I have run out of reasons to stay in my marriage of 18 years. Our daughter leaves for college in the fall and this is the “moment of truth” for me. The funny thing is that I thought that this opportunity I have been focusing on for so long would feel different- more exciting, and […]
Trusted Employee And Friend
I have a longstanding, trusted employee of nearly two decades who gave their termination notice, less than a few days before leave. My employee is a friend, as well. Maybe I should say, was. Our families get together for small and large celebrations. We do fun things together. Over what I guess is a long […]
My Past
I have come a million miles from the sexually, physically and emotionally abusive home that I was raised in. I have severed all ties with both of my parents, have moved to a different state and have spent many, many years finding me again. The last long term relationship that I was in was for […]
Making This More Comfortable for Me?
I love my new apartment! It’s gorgeous, bright, airy, and spacious. My roommate seems nice enough, but never talks. If she does, it’s two word answers or just very matter of fact and short. When we have to communicate over e-mail, she gives the briefest of responses.I’m not sure if she’s moody, curt, or just […]
New Year’s Eve?
I am a 25 year old professional in the financial world. I work hard and party even harder. I go out most weekends with girlfriends to clubs and bars and just let loose, literally. It is not unusual for me to wake up in a mans bed who I met that evening. My M. O. […]
As Her Father And A Christian?
I just found out that my teenage daughter has been engaging in prostitution to support herself and her two year-old child. As her father (and a christian), I am mortified by the thought of my little girl selling her body and her soul. I am naturally very concerned about the effects this will have on […]
What Should I Say To Her?
My spouse of 7 years surprised me when, after I got sick, she took care of our kids and me for the week. I mean totally. For the life of me I never imagined this could happen. She does a wonderful job managing our kids, and she has repeatedly said our 2 are all she […]
Being In Our Joy
Yesterday I reached out and with all my heart, I asked the Universe to let me hear from a friend that I hadn’t heard from. I literally put my head in my hands, my head down at my desk at work, and closed my eyes and felt so deeply how great it would be to […]
Why Do I Do This?
Why do I find myself doing the same things to others that were done to me by my father that I swore to myself I would never do? What we know is not who we are. Our experiences with and from our family of origin often becomes what we know and most often has little […]
The Marriage Is Over
How do I stop blaming myself for the end of my marriage Lets do the math. I would give myself one minute for everyday that I was in my marriage to blame myself, hate myself, berate myself. So if you have been married 20 years that comes out to about 7,300 minutes or 121.66 hours. […]
Estranged From My Grown Children
My grown kids haven’t spoken to me in 2 years, as the holidays approach I get very sad they are not in my life. How am I going to get through the next 2 weeks? Any suggestions? I can imagine how difficult this is for you. Please understand that It can only be their own disconnection from […]
I Cheated On My Wife
I cheated on my wife and I cannot forgive myself even though she has forgiven me. Can you help me? Forgiveness is one of the keys to your own happiness. When you are able to forgive yourself you are then able to forgive others. Forgiveness is a release. When you can release your feelings of […]
Are Men Just Hardwired To Cheat?
Why do spouses have affairs. Are men just hardwired to cheat? Men are hardwired for sex, sex and more sex. However men are not hardwired to cheat. I believe that when “spouses have affairs” it has more to do with a breakdown in communication with themselves first and then with their spouse or partner. Cheating […]
How Can I Tell My Kids Without Worrying Them?
I wish to let my kids know that I missed my payment arrangements for Medicare at the bank. I was ill on the day I was supposed to go there. Medicare is my only insurance. It has been six months now. I no longer have it. I pay for my pills and appointments with cash. […]
I AM 18
I am 18. I am a pretty happy person and I live in a pretty unhappy home. I do not know what to do. My parents will not allow me to move out until I turn 21, they just told me. When I ask other people what to do until then, I always get “go […]
However
I consider myself to be a “straight” individual however So I assume by your question that you have either engaged in sexual fantasies about a same sex partner and or your sexual attraction and curiosity has led you to having a physical experience with a same sex partner. I believe that this is a very […]
“The Truth” Is Not Necessarily Your Truth
My father is a devout (many would say obsessed) Christian, and has disowned and excommunicated me because I do not share his spiritual perspective. He is sick and dying, and I wonder if it is OK to lie to him about my belief in the Judeo-Christian God, just so that we can have a relationship […]
