Dearest Jamie, I am having a delicious affair with a loving, oh so adoring and extremely attentive unmarried man who is 10 years younger than myself. I cannot remember when I have felt this happy. I keep waiting for the guilt and self hatred to set in, but it is not happening. If anything I am better for myself and everyone else these days. Go figure, I should have done this years ago. I keep asking myself if this is some kind of mid-life crisis, but no I am not in crisis. I am happy! (perhaps it is mania and depression is not far behind) I feel that this state of happiness is what has been missing from my life for a very long time. It is a completely separate relationship from the one that I have with my husband and it is certainly making me a better partner in my marriage and a better mother to my children. All I have to say is WOW! But how can something that feels so right ever be wrong?
Congratulations! You have attracted a relationship into your experience that has allowed you to reconnect with yourself. It is no surprise that you are feeling happy. Your inner being has been missing you and is thrilled beyond to have your undivided attention once again. This is not about your affair and it is not about your marriage or your children. What it is about is you and your wonderfully renewed reconnection with yourself. There is nothing that could ever be wrong with that!