Moment Of Truth

I have run out of reasons to stay in my marriage of 18 years. Our daughter leaves for college in the fall and this is the “moment of truth” for me. The funny thing is that I thought that this opportunity I have been focusing on for so long would feel different- more exciting, and liberating. I do not feel anything but fear. Have I set the same trap for myself that I watched my parents set for themselves? The thought of my unhappy marriage playing itself out for an entire lifetime is what I always promised myself that I would never let happen to me. WTF?

What I am interested in understanding is if you have been focused upon your “moment of truth” as an ending or a beginning. When we spend our time or mark our time in a relationship with the idea that if we could just get through it until… and, everybody’s until is different; for you it has obviously been until your daughter leaves for college, then the focus is upon the ending. The end is here and quite possibly you have not spent enough or any time on your new beginning. Is it possible that your mantra for so long has been about getting out of your marriage that you have simply lost sight of how you would like things to feel for you at your ‘moment of truth” I suggest that this long view of your new life will be what begins to give you a sense of excitement and liberation. You still have time to create this for yourself, a wonderful plan for you about you that has nothing to do with your wife, daughter or parents. The relationship that we have with ourselves is the most important relationship that we will ever have and, it becomes the foundation for every other relationship that we do go on to create with another. Sometimes we hide behind our family situation as our unconscious excuse why we never go on and develop this most important relationship with ourselves. I would like to suggest that you now take this time and really get to know yourself, your desires, dreams, passions your future so that you can be true to you in your “moment of truth”