Highlights
My mother had a peaceful transition six months ago. For the past week I have been having vivd dreams. In these dreams it seems as if she is trying to tell me something. I wake up in the night in a cold sweat completely freaked out. Is it possible that she is trying to tell me something?
Ah, how lovely and let me explain why. It is my belief that once we make our transition into the non physical we are completely available as a non physical energy, entity source to communicate and interact with people that have chosen to remain in the physical world here and now. If you would like to receive your mothers message then all you need to do is be open to receiving her in your dreams. When you receive her in your dreams and become comfortable with her non physical energetic presence, you may choose to be open to receiving her in your waking state as well. It is a wonderful way of creating an ongoing connected relationship with those that have made the choice for themselves to transition into the non physical world.
Mar 17, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Parenting, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
It happens especially when I am in a great relationship with the perfect women, which I am now. I get restless and wreck less. I stray from my secure relationship and am out on the prowl for hot sex. I have ruined many good relationships because of this almost uncontrollable, immature sexual urge. I just hate myself for hurting so many women. How can I control myself and not screw up this great relationship that I am in now?
You have an established quite an interesting pattern for yourself. It is the perfect recipe for feeling bad even when you are feeling good. Let me explain. You attract these great relationships into your experience which I presume feel good to you; and then you allow yourself to become distracted by the most natural thing in the world, your sexuality. Instead of acknowledging these feeling to yourself hence the uncontrollable urge, and to your partner, you act upon them which ends up feeling bad because your actions, having “hot sex” which is supposed to feel good ends up hurting the women that you are in a great relationship with. Then to top it all off, you get to hate yourself for the entire course of events. So, what I believe this is really all about is establishing a better relationship with yourself first. One that includes giving yourself permission to feel good in a secure relationship. A relationship that can grow even stronger with your conscious choice to clearly and lovingly communicate to your partner when something comes up with you; and of course one that includes lot’s and lot’s of “hot sex.’’ Now this is a recipe for feeling good!
Mar 15, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex, Uncategorized | Tags: affair, Allowing, communication, Connection, Ego, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Sex, Temptation, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
From the depths of my darkness I emerged into the light. I feel happier, lighter and everything appears brighter. My problem is that my friends now think that I think that I am just to good for them all because I haven’t much to contribute these days to the negative tone of most conversations that we have. They all seemed to like me better when I was in the darkest period of my life. I feel guilty that I am leaving them behind if I decide to spend less and less time with them. How can I apologize and explain this to them so that they understand?
I love, love, love your story. You have expressed it quite eloquently in two beautiful sentences. This is what I would like to tell you about your “problem.” You will never draw a large audience or be amongst the most popular when you choose to bypass the drama in our own life and in other peoples lives. In this case specifically your friends lives. Why would you ever feel the need to apologize to anyone for feeling happier and lighter? The best thing that you could possibly do for yourself and for your friends is to be true to yourself; remain in your light and through your living example of your renewed connection to yourself, illuminate the way for all of those who wish to follow you to the place where everything appears brighter.
Mar 14, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
My mind is very busy and seems to run away with itself. I have tried like the dickens to slow down the barrage of self sabotaging thoughts that I find myself having throughout my days and nights. The crazy thing is that I have many good things going for me in my life right now. How can I convince my own mind of that?
Ahh the mind of the drunken monkey. This is a metaphor that is used in Buddhism to illustrate the challenges of reaching a quiet mind. Mind chatter is the ongoing conversation that your unconscious mind is having with your conscious mind. The chatter is disorganized and tends to create a feeling of complete chaos. It is as if we are completely distracting ourselves by our own thoughts. Usually we are unaware of the content of this conversation and it becomes the soundtrack of our unconscious mind. When we become aware of our mind chatter as you have, we are then able to turn down the volume and listen for our inner being and our guiding voice. I would like to suggest that when you notice your thoughts running away with themselves that you consciously pause and count to twenty. The counting will immediately interrupt the thoughts and still your mind. Then from that place ask yourself this one simple question “do these thoughts that I am having have anything to do with my life in this moment’.I suspect that your answer will be “no”. This is a very effective way to check in with yourself as you begin to differentiate between the two conversations the unconscious one that has nothing to do with your now and the conscious one which is about the many good things that are going well for you in your life right now. You may find yourself pausing and counting every other minute at first but in a very short period of time you will understand that you have the choice as to which conversation that you would like to be having with yourself; as you focus your attention upon your now and redirect yourself back to your inner being.
Mar 13, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized | Tags: communication, Connection, Ego, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
When my wife and I married we agreed to take two subjects off of the table politics and religion. This has worked well for us up until these past few months. We abandoned our agreement and now both of these subjects are putting considerable distance between us in our marriage. How can I stop reacting to her very different points of view and get back to my relationship with my wife?
When we are reacting to something or someone we most often experience a feeling of resistance in our body. The idea that we have released some emotion through our strong expression is an illusion. What we have actually created for ourselves is an opportunity to hold onto something that does not please us. Our ego has stepped in and we somehow feel that in order to be right, we must make another wrong. I would like to suggest to you that with any subject you consider the option of responding instead of reacting. When we respond to something or someone we are expressing our self in such a way that we are releasing our thoughts and feelings without the emotional investment of another s understanding or agreement. It is saying, “lets agree to disagree” as we hear one another and respect each others points of view. When we are connected to ourselves and clear about what is true for us individually our clarity softens us and we feel good about allowing others to hold what is true for themselves. Your choice to respond instead of react can facilitate all kinds of wonderful conversations without taking any topic off of the table as you get back to your relationship with your wife.
Mar 12, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Ego, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
Do you think that it is possible to become so happy being in our own company that we stop needing other people?
I believe that when we have a connected loving relationship with our selves which stems from the ongoing internal conversation that we go on to have with our selves, we feel good. From this connected state of well-being, we can then begin to ask ourselves if we would like or have a desire to create an opening, a space within our life where we are consciously choosing to invite others to join us in our experience. Vibrationally speaking, you are contributing enormously to mass consciousness through your loving connection with yourself and this is one of the greatest ways to share yourself. On a personal note, I would much rather be desired than needed.
Mar 09, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Ego, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
