Highlights
My father beat my mother daily and when I turned 13 I stepped in and called the police. We moved away from my father that year and have not seen him since. I am now 22 years old and have come to realize that every women that I get involved with is somehow needing to be rescued. I have put 2 and 2 together and am very aware of where this attraction to these women come from. So now what?
I have always thought of awareness as a true blessing. Awareness frees us up to make choices for ourselves. So now that you are aware of your own, what I would lovingly call “rescue fantasy” it is up to you. Sometimes awareness is enough for us to say to ourselves that this is what we are choosing for ourselves, in this moment. There is nothing wrong with that. If you would like to begin to attract other kinds of interpersonal relationships, than may I suggest to you that you do a little work vibrationally around the time in your life that you did in fact make the phone call that allowed you and your mother to move away. Most often going back and reframing a significant event in our life allows us to move along as we tell ourselves the new version of the story that would better serve us, in our now. You may begin by creating a new understanding for yourself about yourself regarding the time that you, with absolute clarity chose to open the door for yourself and your mother in order to move along to a better feeling place both emotionally and physically. Vibrationally speaking, when we can attach a new feeling to an old event that happened in our lives; it lightens our load so to speak and we in essence are creating the most wonderful opportunity for ourselves to step into our new, better feeling story as it reflects us in our life, in our now.
Feb 16, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: communication, Connection, Loving, Parenting, Role-playing, Self-love, Sex, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
I live in New Jersey and take the train into NYC for my job. My co-worker lives in NYC and we have a nice rapport with one another. We casually chat about our spouses but I have never met her husband, only seen photos of him on her desk. I recently saw him in my neighborhood near my house with another women. They were holding hands and kissing. I cannot believe it. My question is what do I do with this information. She has a right to know, doesn’t she?
This is a bit tricky. First of all it must have been very uncomfortable for you when you saw your co-workers husband with another women in your own neighborhood in New Jersey. We as women tend to become protective of other women when it comes to the issues surrounding fidelity. However, and I say this in the most loving way, this is none of your concern. Your co-worker does have a right to know about her husbands other interests and in time will do so in her own way. The most important thing that you can do for yourself at this time, is to remain focused upon your own situation with your husband and address any feelings that may be coming up for you, with yourself. Your co-worker is not a victim. We, each and everyone of us attract every single experience into and out of our lives. You have no idea what her situation is and until she shares it with you, it should not concern you. Judgement of others disconnects us from ourselves. I would love to see you use this situation as an ongoing opportunity for you to remain connected to yourself.
Feb 15, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Jealousy, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: affair, Allowing, communication, Connection, Ego, Loving, Self-love, Sex, Temptation, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
My fiance is going to Las Vegas for his friends bachelor party and despite what my girlfriends say about “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” I am not at all worried. Am I being as naive as they tell me I am being ?
It is funny how everyone, especially our friends often have an opinion about what and how we should feel. Your clarity about how you feel speaks volumes about your relationship with yourself as well as the relationship that you have with your fiance. When we trust ourselves first and foremost, we tend to trust others and there is nothing naive about that.
Feb 13, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Ego, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Sex, Temptation, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
We are two young professional girls living in a big apartment in the city and only one of us is having a good time. My roommate is out every night with different friends and on the weekends always manages to hook up with some great guy. Then there is me. I am home everyday after work and can only manage to get to the gym and back. I am trapped in my head with my thoughts and feelings about myself all of which are kind of uncertain. Every time I get invited out somewhere I make up some great excuse why I cannot go. I end up sitting at home obsessing about if I should have accepted the invitation and gone. Nobody would ever know that this is who and how I am because I have gotten so good at hiding out. From any outsiders point of view I have a charmed life, a good job a big apartment and a fabulous roommate. I am stuck!
Stuck is but a moment in time and, what you are describing here is not who you are but rather how and where you are choosing to be in this moment. The question that I would like to see you ask yourself is, what would you like your life to look and feel like to you for you? This is a question that we often avoid asking ourselves as we sometimes get swept up in the momentum of life and can easily lose sight of the moment. Consciously or unconsciously you have brilliantly attracted your “charmed life” into your experience. The beauty of this is that you can also consciously create whatever else you so desire for yourself and this very much includes having a good time. How many nights a week would you like to be out with friends and where; and what does that look and feel like? What would your ideal weekend feel and look like to you and would it include “hooking up” with some great guy? These specific questions will help you begin to create a clearer picture for you about you. This new clarity will assist you in getting out of your head and slowly, one new thought at a time, begin stepping into your expanded life experience. Trust yourself that once you begin asking yourself these and other questions, the answers will come easily to you about you for you.
Feb 11, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Dating, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Connection, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
A dear friend of mine has cancer. She will have surgery soon. What can I say to her that will bring her comfort? I have such a strong feeling that she will be okay.
This can be tricky. Sometimes the people in our lives that we care so much about and are experiencing disease and illness, are not quite ready to be comforted. It is not our place to presume that they need our comforting. What I have found to be the most helpful for our friends and for ourselves is if we can vibrationally hold them in a space of well-being in our minds eye as we continuously flow love and light to them. It would be wonderful for your “dear friend” to know that you are thinking and thinking and thinking about her. Your strong feeling about her being o.k. is what will soothe you into remaining connected to yourself and that is always the best possible way for us to assist others.
Feb 09, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Trusting | Leave A Comment »
Why do people stay in miserable relationships for so long and sometimes forever?
Great question! Some people do not even realize that they are miserable and because they have been at it for so long are unaware that there may be something better for them. Oh, they look out into the world and can sometimes see that others are involved in happy connected relationships but for whatever reason do not even begin to consider having that for themselves. Then there are some people who do consider the happy connected option and as quickly as they do so, they talk themselves out of the idea because that’s for someone else. Still others have their parents miserable marriages to blame for why they have ended up where they are. Then there are people whom can see the lovely option of choosing something different from what they saw in their own homes and what they know to be as a familiar pattern; and they make that great big step out of their heads and into their lives and go on to create a happy healthy relationship, first with themselves and then with others.
Feb 08, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Should I Stay Or Should I Go, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Loving, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
