Highlights
The happiest memories of my childhood are from the times spent with my mother. I was an extension of her and she loved and adored me with all of her heart. I wanted to be a mother myself one day too share this sweet relationship with my own child. I am 34 years old and three years into a beautiful marriage with my husband. We are still not pregnant. We have had all the fertility testing and there are no physical problems for either of us. I have never wanted anything more in my whole life and have never prayed harder for anything either.I am beginning to feel like this may never happen for us. Can you shine your light on our problem, please?
Your relationship with your own mother sounds magical. I can imagine how difficult this must be for you and your husband. Sometimes we want something so badly that in the process of holding it so tightly we are actually creating resistance around the very thing that we are asking and praying for. May I suggest that you and your husband relax and approach getting pregnant in a different way. You have already ruled out all of the medical reasons and this is something that should allow you to create some ease around the entire subject; however it sounds like as a result of this information, you have actually placed more pressure upon yourselves. This is an example of resistance. I believe that one of the most helpful things that you can do for yourselves is to drop the entire subject of getting pregnant and focus upon having hot, hot passionate and as often as possible sex and more sex with your husband. This new focus has no resistance and is all about having fun and reconnecting yourselves with one another for the purpose of pleasure, intimacy and loving connection. From this place you are now wide open to receiving, and did you know that children pick us to be their parents, we do not pick them. Relax have fun breathe and allow yourself to be picked as you are going to be one amazing mother!!!!!!
May 14, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex, Spiritually Speaking, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Parenting, Self-love, Sex, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
My parents got divorced when I was 13 and my brother was 14 and we have always lived with our mom and saw our dad some weekends when he wasn’t busy with his girlfriends. We are now 17 and 18 and our mom has not been out on one single date, that we know about. She always wanted to set a good example for us and it seems like she put her own life on hold like permanently. My brother and I are not children any more and we want our mom to be happy. The real concern that my brother and I have is that we do not want our mom to be alone, ever. How can we help her?
I am not so sure that your mom needs help however you and your brother may want to ask her what she envisions for herself when you and your brother are ready to leave home. It is very possible that she has an entire plan all laid out for herself. She may be very pleased that you are interested in knowing what is ahead for her down the road. If she has not begun to think about this just yet, your question could be the very thing that gets her attention as she begins to think about herself and even the possibility of including someone special to share the next part of her life with. The best thing to do is to begin an open and loving dialogue with your mom about her desires and her dreams as she moves into the next exciting part of her life.
May 11, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Dating, Family Relationships, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Parenting, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
My 16 year old daughter has been interested in boys since the young age of 13. Since this time she has either been crushing on boys or dating boys. She has repeatedly told me not to worry because she knows what she is doing. I have believed this to be true until last week. I came home early from work and to my great surprise discovered my daughter having sex in her bedroom with her latest boyfriend. I completely freaked out. What could I have been thinking to trust her and believe that she knows what she is doing. She is only 16. I feel like a total failure as her mother. What was I thinking?
Please help me understand something. Did you misinterpret your daughter knowing what she is doing with what you would do? I believe that your daughter knows exactly what she is doing and she has no problem with it what so ever. The difficulty that you are having is that she is doing something that you yourself would not have her do. Having sex at her age is unacceptable to you, yet appears to be completely acceptable to your daughter. The real issue here is that up until now you have made an assumption about your daughter that has more to do with you than it does to do with her. If I were you after you are done freaking out, I would begin an open honest loving conversation with your daughter regarding her personal views about sex for herself. This is where you will begin to understand your daughter and realize that she does actually know what she is doing. Allow this conversation to be the first of many and the beginning of your wonderful mother and daughter relationship.
May 10, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Dating, Family Relationships, Highlights, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Parenting, Self-love, Sex, Temptation, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
Do think that we are all here to do or be something special. I am searching to find my place and purpose in this lifetime. Would you offer me some guidance?
Yes, I do believe that we all come here in physical to have a spiritual experience. I also believe that each and every one of us is special in our own way. Because of our uniqueness and when we are choosing to be connected to ourselves we are always contributing something special first to ourselves and then to the world around us. I also believe that we are our own greatest resource and we have access to infinite intelligence. We are all love and light and when we tap into ourselves and learn to trust ourselves we begin to feel our way. We may have many teachers and outside influences but ultimately this is an inside and most amazing journey and the purpose of this life of ours is joy, joy and more joy which is found through our connection to and appreciation of, ourselves and all others.
May 08, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
We consider ourselves the gang of six. It is me, my two best girlfriends and their husbands. We all got married and had our children at the same time, have gone on every spring vacation together and continue to celebrate our grown children’s highs and lows, together. My girlfriends and I are all turning 50 within a month of each other and we have come up with a dangerously delightful proposal to present to our husbands. A one time separate girls and guys weekend where anything goes and we never discuss our weekend with them and they never discuss their weekend with us. Do you think that this is a dangerous idea?
I think that if you girls are 100% committed to going off and having your “anything goes” weekend and really not discussing it with your husbands as well as never, ever, asking them what occurred during their guys “anything goes” weekend, then it could truly be a most delightful proposition that has no danger whats so ever. Each of you will need to be clear and on board for this to be a success. It will be as much about trusting yourselves as it will be about trusting each other. Please do let me know what comes of this delightful celebration and a very Happy 50th Birthday to you and yours.
May 07, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Ego, Energy, Loving, Role-playing, Self-love, Temptation, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
My sister is one of those people who looks on the bright side of every situation. I really appreciated that about her when we were growing up. The problem is that now I cannot get her to admit to having had the same horribly dysfunctional childhood that I know for a fact that we both had. We grew up in the same house for heavens sakes and our parents are dead so it is not like they can hear us. I just want some verification that what really happened, really happened. Do you have any suggestions for how I can get my sister to give it up?
Your question fills me with hope. I am thrilled beyond to hear that two people can grow up in the same “horribly dysfunctional” household and choose to remember very different things. Your sister clearly makes an ongoing choice for herself that supports her own life in her now. I can only encourage you to respect her choice. May I suggest that you trust yourself that what you are choosing to remember is completely accurate for you. If these memories are going to serve you in your own life now, than by all means go there as often as possible. If however your accurate memories are going to keep you from your living your life in your now than may I suggest something else. Take a piece of paper and write down every memory in vivd detail. Relive your entire childhood experience, if it gives you satisfaction to do so and then take a match and let it go up in flames. This is your life now and you can live it anyway that feels good to you. It is all choice, your choice.
May 04, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Loving, Parenting, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
