I Am Stuck

What is wrong with me? I have been in a dead end relationship now for 11, yes thats 11 years. I promise and promise myself that I will end things with my partner and I am still here. Now it is the holidays again and my newest excuse which is actually 11 years old, is that I do not want to spend them alone. The worst part of this whole thing is that I hate myself for the weak pathetic women that I have become or maybe have always been.

O.K. you are clearly stuck and it is wonderful that you are able to identify a pattern that is not working for you. However you are also not ready to leave this relationship and I would love to help you reframe things. Whatever/whomever we attract into our experience is a clear and accurate indication of where we are vibrationally. It appears as though you have attracted your partner some 11 years ago and have used him or her as your excuse to feel bad about yourself ever since. So just to clarify things, it is not your relationship with your partner that is at a “dead end” it is however the relationship with yourself that has allowed you to remain in a relationship that does not feel good to you. I would like to suggest that you begin to redirect yourself to singularly the most important relationship that you will ever have and that would be the relationship that you consciously choose to have with yourself. You are not weak or pathetic you have quite simply created a temporary gap between you and yourself.