I am a stay at home mom with 2 small children and I am completely miserable in my marriage. I feel like a single parent because my husband wants nothing to do with me and the children. He financially provides for our family yet is not the least bit interested in interacting with us. He leaves early every morning and comes home late most evenings. On the weekends he buries himself in his computer or watches sports. He does not even bother to look up at me or the children when we are speaking to him or him to us. He makes me feel so insignificant. I did not sign up for this. I really miss having a partner. What should I do?
Well, first of all, in the most loving way I would like to tell you that no one can make you feel insignificant unless you allow them to. Second of all, often times men will understand their role as the sole provider for their family to be the most important way to be involved. It is very possible that your husband has no idea about how you are feeling about any of this. I believe that it may be time for the two of you to reconnect with each other and rekindle the feelings that originally brought you together. Perhaps getting a babysitter one night a week and making that date night for the two of you could be a wonderful opportunity for reconnecting as a couple. Allow the focus to be on one another as the bonding that you do as a couple, over time will naturally extend to your conversations about the ongoing opportunities to spend together with your children as a family. Breathe, believe and give your partner a chance to reenter the partnership that you are really missing.