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My husband has not been interested in sex since he lost his job 14 months ago. He begs me to go on one of those dating sites for married people and find a lover. He is consumed with guilt about neglecting the emotional and physical aspect of our marriage and he says that it is killing him. Do you think that he just doesn’t love me anymore?
I believe that your husband does love you and he is consumed with guilt for not being available to meet your sexual and emotional needs in your marriage at this time. I also believe that his own deep feelings of inadequacy are driving your husband to make this request that you find a sexual replacement for him. It seems as though there needs to be a better understanding between the two of you as to what the real issues are at this time, in your marriage. This seems like a wonderful opportunity for the two of you to begin an open and loving dialogue with one another regarding your feelings about yourselves first and foremost and then how these feelings may be effecting your marital relationship.
May 23, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: affair, Allowing, communication, Connection, Ego, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Sex, Temptation, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
I found the love of my life my sophomore year in High School. We dated until we both went off to college in different parts of the country. I thought about her all the time but we never reconnected until now, thirty years later. We found each other on Facebook and it has been life changing for me. The problem is that I am married, not happily but married non the less. She has been divorced for 5 years and neither one of us has children. I feel like I have my soul mate back and I really would like to see her again. My question is, what do I do about my wife? Should I tell her now or wait until after I have seen my High School sweetheart?
I only have one answer to your question and it is this- which feels better to you? If talking with your wife and explaining the history of this relationship and your feelings for this other women feels better to you than not telling her, than this is what you should do. On the other hand if waiting until after you have made physical contact with this other women feels better to you than that is what you should choose for yourself. Only you know the answer and it is always the same question that we must ask ourselves when making a difficult decision, which feels better. If neither of these choices feel better than you are not ready to take any action at all. Take your time and create alignment around this issue which means that your thoughts and your feelings are one. Then you will find yourself able to take inspired action and it becomes a win win for all.
May 22, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: affair, Allowing, communication, Connection, Cybersex, Ego, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Sex, Temptation, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
My parents are getting a divorce and I feel like my life is over. They have never fought in front of my sister and I and even though my dad travels a lot for work we never for one minute thought that they were having problems. My mom will not discuss the details about what happened and I hear her crying herself to sleep at night. My dad has moved out and all he says to us is that everything is going to be fine. WTF why are they not thinking about how this is effecting us. What is going to happen to our family?
This must be very difficult for you and your sister to understand. It sounds like your parents are attempting to untangle something in their marriage that you and your sister have not been privy to. The most important thing for you both to know is that adult relationships can be complicated at times and your parents are likely attempting to sort these complications out for themselves first and then for the rest of your family. Divorce is a difficult idea for children to wrap their minds around especially if there has been no visible indication of a problem. I am sure that your parents love you and your sister very much and as they get further down the road with this process, will involve you both. Most likely they are wanting to protect you right now and that is why you are feeling so shut out. Your family situation may change, however your family will always be your family. There are many online resources that assist teens and young adults process their feelings about this difficult family transition. I encourage you and your sister to check out some of these resources so that you do not feel so alone.
May 18, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized | Tags: Allowing, communication, Loving, Parenting, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
I consider myself a serial monogamist. I go from relationship to relationship and how I feel about myself comes from how my relationship is going on any particular day. I have not been able to find my own sense of self outside the confines of a committed relationship. What’s a girl to do?
From your question I assume that the pattern that you have identified about yourself is proving to be less than satisfactory. What you have successfully accomplished, up to now, is avoiding the golden opportunity to address yourself. When we use our interpersonal relationships as our means of navigating our thoughts and feelings we are in essence creating a big gap between ourselves and our inner-being. We actually come to resent the very person that we are having a relationship with. We consciously or unconsciously can feel that it is all on their terms. You have positioned yourself as a prisoner of sorts to your significant other’s moods, thoughts and feelings about the relationship and how it reflects upon you as a whole. It is never about being in a relationship with another and it is always about creating and recreating a loving connected relationship with yourself. May I suggest that every moment you find yourself looking outside of yourself for how you are feeling, you shift your focus to your inner being. Ask yourself how you are feeling, not based upon another but how are YOU actually feeling in this moment? This will become the most important ongoing question that you will ask yourself from this day forward. Be still and listen for the answer. In time you will become reacquainted with the sound of your inner-being, inner-knowing. You will begin to trust your own inner navigation that is on call and available to you 24/7- 365. Your ongoing loving relationship with yourself will indeed accentuate every other relationship that you will ever go on to have.
May 16, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
My wife reads a lot and I usually do not give much thought to her reading selections but this book has really gotten my attention. Not only is she reading a sex trilogy she wants me to blind fold her with my tie take her over my knee and spank her and then have kinky sex with her. My wife doesn’t even like it when we have regular sex and she has never allowed me to spank our children even when I thought they most needed to be. What the hell is happening. Is every women in America who is reading this trilogy gone completely crazy?
I assume that you are referring to E.L. Jame’s “Fifty Shades Of Grey” trilogy. I have been receiving many questions similar to yours over the past few weeks by both married and single men. It is interesting to me because I would have thought that this sexual awakening in women would really please most men out there and yet it has had the opposite effect. Most men are feeling intimidated. That being said, how do you feel about a little kinky sex play in your bedroom with your wife? This is the question that you could be asking yourself. Hey it could really spice things up for the two of you. If nothing else the conversation alone could be most titillating!
May 16, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Jealousy, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex | Tags: communication, Loving, Oral Sex, Role-playing, Sex, Temptation, Trusting | Leave A Comment »
I feel lonely most of the time. I go through the motions at my job and with my friends but It all seems pointless. I have thought about what I am doing here and nothing really comes to mind. If this is going to be my life I am not sure that I want to go on. I guess I am stuck can you help?
I would really like to try and help you. What you are describing to me sounds like a temporary state of disconnection from yourself and what you appear to be experiencing are the classic feelings that go along with this disconnected state of being. What this means is that you have momentarily turned your back upon yourself and lost sight of where you are. I have really good news for you. Your inner being has not lost sight of you. Your inner being and inner knowing will never turn its back on you. It is your guiding light of unconditional love and acceptance and it is waiting for you to reach out in the smallest of ways and slowly begin closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be. The new question that you could begin asking yourself is, what would you like to be doing here? This question may allow you to begin to think about yourself with a sense of curiosity. When we allow ourselves to become curious about ourselves the process creates a wonderful opening for self reflection without any sense of judgement. This is the language that your inner being-inner knowing speaks and understands. This is how you can slowly begin to close the gap from where you are to who you are. When we reconnect with ourselves it feels so good because it feels like we have come home. You are just a question away which will lead to a thought which will lead to a feeling that will assist you in reconnecting you with yourself. Please remember “stuck” is only a moment in time and it only takes a moment to make a shift from where you are to getting back to who you are.
May 15, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
