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My great grandfather beat my grandfather, my grandfather beat my father and my father beat me. I guess you could say it has been the family chain of pain. I swore to myself that I would never have children for fear of repeating this god awful family tradition. I am engaged and my fiance is a second grade teacher. All she talks about is having children. I have never shared my family secret or my fears with her. My question is this, do you think that it is possible for me to become a father and not do what was done to me by my own father, in other words can I break this chain?
Yes!! It is more than possible. You are not your great grandfather, your grandfather or your father. You have however been on the receiving end of a very “long chain of pain.” You are a conscious creator who through living such enormous contrast (something other than what you wanted for yourself) you have created some very clear desires for yourself. You have attracted a wonderful opportunity into your life to be a father and this could become a corrective emotional experience for you. What this means is, by having your own child and responding to him or her in the ways that you actually would have wanted your own father to respond to you; you are now allowing yourself to be emotionally nurtured and repaired by this loving exchange; one that you are on the giving and receiving end of. This is the surest way to re-parent yourself as you parent your child. This entire loving experience will set you free. Now you will have broken the family tradition and created an entirely new one based on love, love, love.
Jun 01, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Parenting, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
I have been having these crazy recurring fantasies about walking away from my life and not looking back. I haven’t allowed myself to go any further with these thoughts because they really scare me. What could this be all about?
I would like to remind you of the definition of the word fantasy: The faculty or activity of imagining things that are impossible or improbable. This being said I would also like to encourage you to allow yourself to explore these “crazy recurring fantasies” of yours. Something is on your mind that you may want to become curious about. Your inner being is clearly tapping you on the shoulder and trying to get your attention. Our inner guidance is always looking out for us and there may be some things in these fantasies of yours that you may want to pay attention to. Our inner knowing is always guiding us toward the light and assisting us in seeing what we are ready to see. Trust yourself and allow yourself to be guided.
May 30, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
My 13 year old dog died last week and I died with her. I have never felt such a deep sense of loss and sorrow. When I lost my mother two years ago I did not experience this depth of pain. I cannot get out of bed to go to work. I have not answered my telephone or text messages, I am completely paralyzed by my own sense of grief. I do not know how I am going to go on without her because she was my connection to everything especially myself. Please help me!
It is without question one of the most unbearable feelings to endure when we lose a part of ourselves that happens to be a member of the animal kingdom. It is not a pain that we could ever prepare ourselves for and my heart goes out to you. This is going to take time and time is what I suggest that you give to yourself. It is a different amount of time for each individual and may I suggest that you be very gentle with yourself in the process. There are pet loss grief support groups that you may find helpful but once again, only you are going to know when and if that time will come for you. You are going to go on and thinking about your beloved partner can only be of help to you as she was how you maintained your connection with yourself. So, tap into all of the goodness that your unconditionally loving 4 legged friend gave you and use these beautiful memories as the strength that you are going to need to get yourself through this. Our animals my have left our sides but their unconditional love for us lives on and on and on. Please use her as your greatest excuse to remain connected to yourself as she would have only wanted it that way
May 29, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Connection, Energy, Loving, Trusting | Leave A Comment »
It is true what they say “where ever you go there you are” I keep taking my same old patterns to every new situation whether it be a relationship, job or new living situation. How can I break this predictable and unwanted path that I am on?
Yes it is true, where ever we go here we are. May I suggest that you begin by identifying all of the positive aspects that you have created for yourself within your old patterns. These would be every part of everything that you do that feels good in the process and ultimately results in a positive outcome. I am willing to bet that this list is going to be quite long and surprisingly detailed. This is your new focus and the basis for consciously creating your newly desired path. What we focus upon is what we create for ourselves and most often it is the unwanted aspects that people tend to focus upon and continue creating for themselves as they move along from situation to situation. These days are now over for you if you can make the conscious choice to focus only on that which you are wanting to create for yourself. The sky is the limit!
May 28, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, Connection, Ego, Energy, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
I started telling stories about my family in the second grade. It was then that I began to understand that my parents were different from the other kids parents. Both of my parents are alcoholics. I have spent my childhood, adolescents as well as a good portion of my adulthood trying to cover up this truth. I love both of them and at the same time I feel a lot of shame and resentment toward them. I have met the women that I am going to marry and she has a great family. She keeps asking me when she will be meeting my family. How much longer can I keep telling these lies about my family to myself and to the people in my life.
The greatest gift that you can continue to give to yourself is to hold onto the image in your mind and your heart of who you needed your parents to be then and how you would like them to become a part of your life today.These are not lies.These are stories that allow you to remain connected to yourself as you continue to love your parents and successfully move along in your own life. We cannot change who others are, even our own parents. Make peace in your own mind about what has been and focus upon the relationship that you would like to create with them now. You are calling the shots and it is you that has complete control over how much or how little you would like them to be a part of your adult, married life. Tap into this great family of your future wife (which you only could have attracted with your strong and clear desires) and allow these relationships to nurture and nourish you in every way possible.
May 26, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: communication, Connection, Loving, Parenting, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
Dearest Jamie, I am having a delicious affair with a loving, oh so adoring and extremely attentive unmarried man who is 10 years younger than myself. I cannot remember when I have felt this happy. I keep waiting for the guilt and self hatred to set in, but it is not happening. If anything I am better for myself and everyone else these days. Go figure, I should have done this years ago. I keep asking myself if this is some kind of mid-life crisis, but no I am not in crisis. I am happy! (perhaps it is mania and depression is not far behind) I feel that this state of happiness is what has been missing from my life for a very long time. It is a completely separate relationship from the one that I have with my husband and it is certainly making me a better partner in my marriage and a better mother to my children. All I have to say is WOW! But how can something that feels so right ever be wrong?
Congratulations! You have attracted a relationship into your experience that has allowed you to reconnect with yourself. It is no surprise that you are feeling happy. Your inner being has been missing you and is thrilled beyond to have your undivided attention once again. This is not about your affair and it is not about your marriage or your children. What it is about is you and your wonderfully renewed reconnection with yourself. There is nothing that could ever be wrong with that!
May 24, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex, Spiritually Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: affair, Allowing, communication, Connection, Ego, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Sex, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
