Why Is She So Fine All of the Time?

I am the luckiest man ever. I have a drop dead gorgeous girlfriend who is attentive, understanding, trusting, and loving. She encourages me to spend time with my guy friends, she is never disappointed or let down by me or anyone else. No matter what I do or do not do it seems that she is so fine with everything. How can she be so fine with everything all of the time? What am I missing here? – Anonymous

AHHH how refreshing, you have attracted a women into your life who is clearly having a love affair with herself. Let me explain. When we create a long term connected relationship with ourselves first and foremost we are no longer dependent on others to make ourselves happy and fulfilled. We can now do that for ourselves. When we love ourselves unconditionally we can then extend that unconditional love to others. It is from this place that we go one to co create the most fantastic relationships with others that are filled with pleasure and joy and a lot of what I refer to in my book as allowing. Allowing is the process of completely relaxing into who you are and not asking those around you to change who they are to make you feel better. When you love yourself you do not want to change anyone or anything about another. This is a match made in heaven on earth.