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My parents are getting a divorce and I feel like my life is over. They have never fought in front of my sister and I and even though my dad travels a lot for work we never for one minute thought that they were having problems. My mom will not discuss the details about what happened and I hear her crying herself to sleep at night. My dad has moved out and all he says to us is that everything is going to be fine. WTF why are they not thinking about how this is effecting us. What is going to happen to our family?
This must be very difficult for you and your sister to understand. It sounds like your parents are attempting to untangle something in their marriage that you and your sister have not been privy to. The most important thing for you both to know is that adult relationships can be complicated at times and your parents are likely attempting to sort these complications out for themselves first and then for the rest of your family. Divorce is a difficult idea for children to wrap their minds around especially if there has been no visible indication of a problem. I am sure that your parents love you and your sister very much and as they get further down the road with this process, will involve you both. Most likely they are wanting to protect you right now and that is why you are feeling so shut out. Your family situation may change, however your family will always be your family. There are many online resources that assist teens and young adults process their feelings about this difficult family transition. I encourage you and your sister to check out some of these resources so that you do not feel so alone.
May 18, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized | Tags: Allowing, communication, Loving, Parenting, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
I consider myself a serial monogamist. I go from relationship to relationship and how I feel about myself comes from how my relationship is going on any particular day. I have not been able to find my own sense of self outside the confines of a committed relationship. What’s a girl to do?
From your question I assume that the pattern that you have identified about yourself is proving to be less than satisfactory. What you have successfully accomplished, up to now, is avoiding the golden opportunity to address yourself. When we use our interpersonal relationships as our means of navigating our thoughts and feelings we are in essence creating a big gap between ourselves and our inner-being. We actually come to resent the very person that we are having a relationship with. We consciously or unconsciously can feel that it is all on their terms. You have positioned yourself as a prisoner of sorts to your significant other’s moods, thoughts and feelings about the relationship and how it reflects upon you as a whole. It is never about being in a relationship with another and it is always about creating and recreating a loving connected relationship with yourself. May I suggest that every moment you find yourself looking outside of yourself for how you are feeling, you shift your focus to your inner being. Ask yourself how you are feeling, not based upon another but how are YOU actually feeling in this moment? This will become the most important ongoing question that you will ask yourself from this day forward. Be still and listen for the answer. In time you will become reacquainted with the sound of your inner-being, inner-knowing. You will begin to trust your own inner navigation that is on call and available to you 24/7- 365. Your ongoing loving relationship with yourself will indeed accentuate every other relationship that you will ever go on to have.
May 16, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
My wife reads a lot and I usually do not give much thought to her reading selections but this book has really gotten my attention. Not only is she reading a sex trilogy she wants me to blind fold her with my tie take her over my knee and spank her and then have kinky sex with her. My wife doesn’t even like it when we have regular sex and she has never allowed me to spank our children even when I thought they most needed to be. What the hell is happening. Is every women in America who is reading this trilogy gone completely crazy?
I assume that you are referring to E.L. Jame’s “Fifty Shades Of Grey” trilogy. I have been receiving many questions similar to yours over the past few weeks by both married and single men. It is interesting to me because I would have thought that this sexual awakening in women would really please most men out there and yet it has had the opposite effect. Most men are feeling intimidated. That being said, how do you feel about a little kinky sex play in your bedroom with your wife? This is the question that you could be asking yourself. Hey it could really spice things up for the two of you. If nothing else the conversation alone could be most titillating!
May 16, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Jealousy, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex | Tags: communication, Loving, Oral Sex, Role-playing, Sex, Temptation, Trusting | Leave A Comment »
I feel lonely most of the time. I go through the motions at my job and with my friends but It all seems pointless. I have thought about what I am doing here and nothing really comes to mind. If this is going to be my life I am not sure that I want to go on. I guess I am stuck can you help?
I would really like to try and help you. What you are describing to me sounds like a temporary state of disconnection from yourself and what you appear to be experiencing are the classic feelings that go along with this disconnected state of being. What this means is that you have momentarily turned your back upon yourself and lost sight of where you are. I have really good news for you. Your inner being has not lost sight of you. Your inner being and inner knowing will never turn its back on you. It is your guiding light of unconditional love and acceptance and it is waiting for you to reach out in the smallest of ways and slowly begin closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be. The new question that you could begin asking yourself is, what would you like to be doing here? This question may allow you to begin to think about yourself with a sense of curiosity. When we allow ourselves to become curious about ourselves the process creates a wonderful opening for self reflection without any sense of judgement. This is the language that your inner being-inner knowing speaks and understands. This is how you can slowly begin to close the gap from where you are to who you are. When we reconnect with ourselves it feels so good because it feels like we have come home. You are just a question away which will lead to a thought which will lead to a feeling that will assist you in reconnecting you with yourself. Please remember “stuck” is only a moment in time and it only takes a moment to make a shift from where you are to getting back to who you are.
May 15, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Spiritually Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
The happiest memories of my childhood are from the times spent with my mother. I was an extension of her and she loved and adored me with all of her heart. I wanted to be a mother myself one day too share this sweet relationship with my own child. I am 34 years old and three years into a beautiful marriage with my husband. We are still not pregnant. We have had all the fertility testing and there are no physical problems for either of us. I have never wanted anything more in my whole life and have never prayed harder for anything either.I am beginning to feel like this may never happen for us. Can you shine your light on our problem, please?
Your relationship with your own mother sounds magical. I can imagine how difficult this must be for you and your husband. Sometimes we want something so badly that in the process of holding it so tightly we are actually creating resistance around the very thing that we are asking and praying for. May I suggest that you and your husband relax and approach getting pregnant in a different way. You have already ruled out all of the medical reasons and this is something that should allow you to create some ease around the entire subject; however it sounds like as a result of this information, you have actually placed more pressure upon yourselves. This is an example of resistance. I believe that one of the most helpful things that you can do for yourselves is to drop the entire subject of getting pregnant and focus upon having hot, hot passionate and as often as possible sex and more sex with your husband. This new focus has no resistance and is all about having fun and reconnecting yourselves with one another for the purpose of pleasure, intimacy and loving connection. From this place you are now wide open to receiving, and did you know that children pick us to be their parents, we do not pick them. Relax have fun breathe and allow yourself to be picked as you are going to be one amazing mother!!!!!!
May 14, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex, Spiritually Speaking, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Parenting, Self-love, Sex, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
My parents got divorced when I was 13 and my brother was 14 and we have always lived with our mom and saw our dad some weekends when he wasn’t busy with his girlfriends. We are now 17 and 18 and our mom has not been out on one single date, that we know about. She always wanted to set a good example for us and it seems like she put her own life on hold like permanently. My brother and I are not children any more and we want our mom to be happy. The real concern that my brother and I have is that we do not want our mom to be alone, ever. How can we help her?
I am not so sure that your mom needs help however you and your brother may want to ask her what she envisions for herself when you and your brother are ready to leave home. It is very possible that she has an entire plan all laid out for herself. She may be very pleased that you are interested in knowing what is ahead for her down the road. If she has not begun to think about this just yet, your question could be the very thing that gets her attention as she begins to think about herself and even the possibility of including someone special to share the next part of her life with. The best thing to do is to begin an open and loving dialogue with your mom about her desires and her dreams as she moves into the next exciting part of her life.
May 11, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Dating, Family Relationships, Highlights, Hypothetically Speaking, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Parenting, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
