Recurring Fantasies
I have been having these crazy recurring fantasies about walking away from my life and not looking back. I haven’t allowed myself to go any further with these thoughts because they really scare me. What could this be all about? I would like to remind you of the definition of the word fantasy: The faculty […]
I Lost My Best Friend
My 13 year old dog died last week and I died with her. I have never felt such a deep sense of loss and sorrow. When I lost my mother two years ago I did not experience this depth of pain. I cannot get out of bed to go to work. I have not answered […]
It Is True What They Say
It is true what they say “where ever you go there you are” I keep taking my same old patterns to every new situation whether it be a relationship, job or new living situation. How can I break this predictable and unwanted path that I am on? Yes it is true, where ever we go here […]
My Alcoholic Parents
I started telling stories about my family in the second grade. It was then that I began to understand that my parents were different from the other kids parents. Both of my parents are alcoholics. I have spent my childhood, adolescents as well as a good portion of my adulthood trying to cover up this […]
Here Goes Everything
Dearest Jamie, I am having a delicious affair with a loving, oh so adoring and extremely attentive unmarried man who is 10 years younger than myself. I cannot remember when I have felt this happy. I keep waiting for the guilt and self hatred to set in, but it is not happening. If anything I am […]
He Wants Me To Find A Lover
My husband has not been interested in sex since he lost his job 14 months ago. He begs me to go on one of those dating sites for married people and find a lover. He is consumed with guilt about neglecting the emotional and physical aspect of our marriage and he says that it is […]
What About My Wife
I found the love of my life my sophomore year in High School. We dated until we both went off to college in different parts of the country. I thought about her all the time but we never reconnected until now, thirty years later. We found each other on Facebook and it has been life […]
My Sense Of Self
I consider myself a serial monogamist. I go from relationship to relationship and how I feel about myself comes from how my relationship is going on any particular day. I have not been able to find my own sense of self outside the confines of a committed relationship. What’s a girl to do? From your […]
Feeling Lonely Most Of The Time
I feel lonely most of the time. I go through the motions at my job and with my friends but It all seems pointless. I have thought about what I am doing here and nothing really comes to mind. If this is going to be my life I am not sure that I want to […]
Have Never Prayed Harder For Anything
The happiest memories of my childhood are from the times spent with my mother. I was an extension of her and she loved and adored me with all of her heart. I wanted to be a mother myself one day too share this sweet relationship with my own child. I am 34 years old and […]
What Was I Thinking?
My 16 year old daughter has been interested in boys since the young age of 13. Since this time she has either been crushing on boys or dating boys. She has repeatedly told me not to worry because she knows what she is doing. I have believed this to be true until last week. I […]
Searching For My Place In This Lifetime
Do think that we are all here to do or be something special. I am searching to find my place and purpose in this lifetime. Would you offer me some guidance? Yes, I do believe that we all come here in physical to have a spiritual experience. I also believe that each and every one […]
Wanting Verification
My sister is one of those people who looks on the bright side of every situation. I really appreciated that about her when we were growing up. The problem is that now I cannot get her to admit to having had the same horribly dysfunctional childhood that I know for a fact that we both […]
Taking A Stance
Is there a difference between taking a stance and being clear? Great question! When we take a stance we are in essence proclaiming something. There tends to be a lot of resistance in that action. It is like we are having to completely reject one thing in order to accept another. Clarity feels different. When […]
Money Worries
I worry about money all the time. When I have money I worry, when I have less money I worry. If it is not about the money, than what is it really about? You have already figured out the most important part of your worries and that is, it is in fact NOT about the […]
It Is All About The Sex
It is not all about the sex, but it is all about the sex. Every since that starry summer night when my totally hot 18 year old neighbor sweetly introduced me to sex (upon my request) I have used sex as the emotional gateway to the connection with myself. It is the sex that drives […]
Getting Our Needs Met
If we only have unconditional relationships with people how on earth do we ever get our needs met? The way that you have asked this question leads me to belive that you believe that our needs are meant to be met by others. I have a different senseability about this. Our choice to unconditionally love, […]
Lost in Expectation
I find myself judging everyone and wanting them to be more like myself- polite, communicative and respectful. Is this really asking so much of the human race? It is my belief that we have not come here to change anyone. What we have come here to do is relax into the essence of who […]
Career Change
I have been living on my own since leaving my dysfunctional alcoholic mother and her big time loser live in boyfriend. As a straight A student in high school I used to dream about going to college and actually making something of myself. I have been supporting myself by waitressing at a diner in the […]
My Double Life
I have always felt as if I am living a double life. Where I came from is not anywhere that anyone that I know could ever imagine or understand. I have successfully escaped the nightmare that I call ‘my childhood’, so I thought. The identity that I have created for myself is reflected in my […]
My Wife
My wife is a devout follower of Abraham Hicks and you of course. She takes complete responsibility for her own happiness and never comments on my perpetual state of unhappiness. I feel bad about myself when I consider the lack of contribution that I make to her internal happy state of being. My greatest fear […]
Losing Her Virginity
If a women loses her virginity, does it mean that she no longer deserves to be respected? I have always thought about virginity as something that you give away happily and willingly. We must honor and cherish ourselves; both of which fall into the category of deeply respecting ourselves. It is a beautiful thing when […]
The Mantra In Our House
When I was growing up the mantra in our house was “be happy with what you have”. I have always been happy and always wanted more of everything for myself and my family. My parents saw me as an ungrateful only child and discouraged my desire to want more. As an adult I have become successful […]
Falling In Love
Why do I lose myself when I fall in love? Falling in love is such a beautiful thing and it is also a chemical thing. The research shows that when a person falls in love, 12 areas of the brain work together to release euphoria-inducing chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, adrenaline and vasopression.We can easily […]
