Highlights
I look outside of myself as a way of gauging my feelings. If it is a sunny day and the stock market is up then I feel great. If however my girlfriend or my mother is upset with me I do not feel so good. My self esteem comes from how much I am valued where I work and I work hard to retain that value. I know that it is an inside job but how do I get in and what will I do once I am there?
What a great question! It is this exact question that grants you VIP access into the most unconditionally loving place ever, your inner-being. Welcome. Have no fear as you are officially home. This safe and loving place is where you will begin to direct your attention inward as you explore your own thoughts and feelings. You will find out very quickly how the two are completely interrelated. As you begin to become acquainted with your own inner voice, you will have feelings about the conversations that you find yourself having with yourself. These are private conversations and are not in any way related to how the outside world is interacting with you. It is like having an imaginary friend to turn to. In time you will come to be your own best friend; someone who you can count upon and trust as you sort through your own thoughts and the feelings that you allow yourself to associate with those thoughts. Your inner being, inner knowing will always be there to guide and direct you and it is always up to you whether you choose to tap into your own guidance from moment to moment or not. Imagine the freedom of never again being dependent upon another for how you are choosing to feel about yourself.
Jun 22, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Loving, Self-love, Trusting, truth, vibration | Leave A Comment »
I am ready to have a life partner after so many years of going it alone. My question is where do I begin?
You have already begun through the identification of your new desire. Think not one moment about where you have been and instead begin moving directly onto envisioning, one detailed thought and feeling at a time, what your new life partner looks like, sounds like, smells like, and feels like. I invite you to spend endless hours imagining how you will feel in the company and in the arms of this person; that you have been waiting your entire life to invite into your experience. It is this process that allows us to manifest our every desire. We sift and sort through the contrast of our life experience and we gain clarity. It is from this place of clarity that we begin to launch our new desires. Through the alignment of our thoughts and our feelings as one, regarding our desires, we can then call everything and anything into our experience. When we ask it is given. There is only one question and that is, are you ready to receive what you are asking for? And I believe that you are.
Jun 21, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Uncategorized, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Energy, Self-love, Sex, Trusting, truth, vibration | Leave A Comment »
I thought that I could be all open and shit and handle a open sexual relationship with this girl that I have been seeing. It was all fine and good until I would run into her and she was with another guy. I am pissed at myself for not being secure enough to handle this kind of open sexual relationship. How can I work through my insecurities and become the man that I thought I could be?
The first thing that I would like to see you do is to check in with yourself as you begin exploring your own beliefs around what it means to you to be in an “open sexual relationship” with another. It is very possible that this kind of relationship is “fine and good” in theory yet does not resonate with you and your inner being. This has not a thing to do with your insecurities and it has everything to do with trusting the relationship that you have with yourself. If after you explore your own beliefs and feel that this is something you would like to see yourself a part of, it then becomes a matter of creating alignment. Getting into alignment with any subject is about lining up our thoughts and feelings as one. When we are connected to ourselves and open to receiving information in the form of emotions about what resonates with our inner being we feel good. We can always shift our beliefs as our beliefs come from the thoughts that we have practiced ourselves into. Tune into yourself and allow yourself to be guided to wherever you want to go with this and you will clearly know because what ever you decide about yourself and the future of the relationships you would like to have or not have, it will feel good to you. This is always our most accurate indicator that we have closed the gap between where we are and who we are.
Jun 19, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Jealousy, Love and Relationships, Psychologically Speaking, Sex and More Sex, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Ego, Loving, Self-love, Sex, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
It is almost Father’s Day, that one day that I think to myself ‘so what! Where was that asshole when I was growing up?’ Because I receive a card and phone call from him on every appropriate holiday I find the polite part of myself wanting to return the favor. In the store I read every mushy, gushy make me want to gag ( like anyone really feels these things about their own father? Give me a break will you) Happy Father’s Day cards and I am immediately filled with anger and resistance once again. Can you help me snap out of my reactionary mode and step back into the loving visionary that my mom raised me to be.
You are the loving visionary that you have come here to be, and in this moment you appear to be a bit out of alignment with yourself. No worries. If you insist on buying a store bought card, I would begin in the condolence section. Read all of the cards expressing sympathy for a loss. This is really what you are feeling about your inability to have had your dad around, and yes it is a loss for you and for him. After you have had your fill in that section move along to the Hope You Feel Better section of the cards and cheer yourself up. When you feel sufficiently cheery move right along to the Humor section and read every ridiculous card that was written and laugh until you find yourself doubled over on the floor in that aisle. Now, march yourself right over to the the blank cards. Pick one that you like and purchase it. Go home with your head held high and sit in a space that gives you the most joyous connection to yourself. When you feel ready pull the card out and write three simple words inside the card – Happy Father’s Day
Jun 16, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Allowing, communication, Connection, Loving, Parenting, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
I really struggle with feeling like I am enough. Everything that I have accomplished I thought I was doing for myself but I always seem to be looking for recognition from others, especially my father. He expects everything from me that I expect from myself but I just want to feel like he is proud of me. I hear it from his friends and from other members of our family but never from the one person that I need it from in order to feel like I am enough. How can I make things right with myself without his recognition?
These types of feelings can be difficult to navigate. We play a dangerous game with ourselves when we become dependent upon how others think and feel about us and our accomplishments in order to feel complete within ourselves or like we are in fact “enough.” It becomes especially difficult when we are wanting recognition from our parents or in your case your father. When we have the conscious ability to internalize our own successes we begin to feel less dependent upon others approval and their recognition. I would like to suggest that you begin to embrace and internalize all you have come to be with the absolute knowing that you are always enough and you are ever expanding in your desire to become more. This expansion comes from within and you will come to understand that there is no greater feeling than knowing that you in your most connected state of expansion have and will continue to, create your every desire for you; not for your father and not for any others.
Jun 15, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Connection, Ego, Energy, Loving, Parenting, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
I really do not want to be married any longer but I am afraid of splitting up our family. My own mother left my father when my sisters and I were little and I always resented her for that. I thought that my parents should have worked things out between themselves and kept us all together as a family. Now I find myself in the same predicament. I am torn between doing what I know would be best for myself and what I think will be best for our family. Should I stay or should I go?
When we are feeling torn about anything it is a clear indication to ourselves that we are not ready to take any kind of action. The most important thing that you can do for yourself and your family in this moment is to begin to create alignment which means your thoughts and your feelings lined up as one, around the choices that you have presented yourself with. It is never about the action that we take, however it is always about how we feel about the action that we are choosing to take that ultimately creates our most successful outcomes. You said that you “know” what would be best for yourself and what you “think” will be best for your family, I would like to suggest that you begin creating alignment around your knowing first and foremost. We always know what is best for ourselves even if we do not always listen to our knowing. You have already identified your knowing as such and now you can begin to create alignment around it. It is very possible that your own mother made her decision from her own knowing even if it was not a decision that you agreed with. Trust yourself throughout this process with the absolute understanding that when we create alignment around any subject we are then able to take inspired action. When we take inspired action we cannot get it wrong.
Jun 14, 2012 | Categories: Consciousness, Family Relationships, Help I Am Stuck, Highlights, Psychologically Speaking, Should I Stay Or Should I Go, Vibrationally Speaking | Tags: Connection, Parenting, Self-love, Trusting, truth | Leave A Comment »
