Abundantly Clear
I have been intimately involved with a married man for 3 years. His wife has MS and from the beginning of our sexual relationship he made his position abundantly clear to me. He loves her and will never leave her. I went into this relationship with my eyes wide open but I believe that I […]
Sexual Pleasure
When is sexual pleasure with multiple partners considered to be promiscuity The definition of the word promiscuous as well as the inference implies that of someone whom is indiscriminate, casual and somehow haphazard or irresponsible. The judgement within this adjective is completely contrary to the word and meaning of pleasure. We can certainly choose to […]
My 10 Year Old Daughter
My daughter is 10 years old, in fifth grade and is very much her own person. She does not appear interested in what the ”popular girls” are wearing or what they are doing socially on the weekends. She floats in and out of different groups without a best or close friend and seems very happy […]
She Has A Right To know
I live in New Jersey and take the train into NYC for my job. My co-worker lives in NYC and we have a nice rapport with one another. We casually chat about our spouses but I have never met her husband, only seen photos of him on her desk. I recently saw him in my […]
Am I Just Being Naive
My fiance is going to Las Vegas for his friends bachelor party and despite what my girlfriends say about “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” I am not at all worried. Am I being as naive as they tell me I am being ? It is funny how everyone, especially our friends often have […]
How To Bring Her Comfort
A dear friend of mine has cancer. She will have surgery soon. What can I say to her that will bring her comfort? I have such a strong feeling that she will be okay. This can be tricky. Sometimes the people in our lives that we care so much about and are experiencing disease and […]
A Great Mystery
Why do people stay in miserable relationships for so long and sometimes forever? Great question! Some people do not even realize that they are miserable and because they have been at it for so long are unaware that there may be something better for them. Oh, they look out into the world and can sometimes […]
Not Another Fling
I met up with a guy last night that I’ve known for over two years but haven’t seen him in almost a year. He had just ended a live-in relationship with someone two weeks ago, although he said he had decided he was “out” of the relationship six months ago. He was sweet and we had […]
Our Child Is A Bully
We have a big problem with our 12 year old son who has become a regular bully at school. We have been called in to meet with the principal and the school counselor and they are both recommending that we take our son to therapy so that this issue can be addressed. My husband and […]
What Should I Do?
We are empty nesters and my husband does not talk with me. He talks at me and sometimes to me but this is mostly happening when his head is buried in the newspaper, or when he is on his computer or surfing through emails and text messages on his phone. I have suggested to him […]
How Can I Kick This Habit
I sometimes experiences a withdrawal-like feeling when I haven’t spoken to certain people in a few days. Sometimes it can be one or two days, sometimes more. It feels like what I experienced when I quit cigarette smoking many years ago. My nicotine fix was obviously a sort of drug-dependency. So what about this need to verbally connect […]
Am I Going Crazy?
My wife, the love of my life died 2 years ago in a car accident. We worked together, played together and her breath was my breath. I cannot mourn for her because I can still feel her, smell her, hear her. My friends and family are very concerned about me and think that I am […]
Shocked And Ashamed
I am shocked. I feel ashamed. I am well known in a popular industry and stunned to find that my son, a “hunk” in another big medium, got fully unclothed and aroused on a well-watched show. By all appearances there was no stand-in person. I want nothing to do with my son, the show, and […]
Open Marriage
What are your views on open marriage? Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. If this is what you mean by an open marriage then I believe that it is quite possible to have […]
Losing Myself
I am really on top of my game when it comes to taking care of myself, as long as I am not in any kind of intimate relationship. As soon as I get involved with someone that I care about I seem to lose myself and focus all of my attention on the other person […]
My 15 Year Old Daughter
My 15 year old daughter is bright, beautiful and has a good head on her shoulders. The group of friends that she is running with these days are all beginning to experiment with marijuana. I totally trust her but am wondering if I should talk to her and if so what should I say? How […]
All Consumed?
I am consumed with a women that does not even know that I exist. We work together in the same large office and I spend a fair amount of time finding any excuse possible to pass by her desk on the way to the break room which is also on the way to the bathroom […]
Trusted Employee And Friend
I have a longstanding, trusted employee of nearly two decades who gave their termination notice, less than a few days before leave. My employee is a friend, as well. Maybe I should say, was. Our families get together for small and large celebrations. We do fun things together. Over what I guess is a long […]
My Past
I have come a million miles from the sexually, physically and emotionally abusive home that I was raised in. I have severed all ties with both of my parents, have moved to a different state and have spent many, many years finding me again. The last long term relationship that I was in was for […]
Making This More Comfortable for Me?
I love my new apartment! It’s gorgeous, bright, airy, and spacious. My roommate seems nice enough, but never talks. If she does, it’s two word answers or just very matter of fact and short. When we have to communicate over e-mail, she gives the briefest of responses.I’m not sure if she’s moody, curt, or just […]
As Her Father And A Christian?
I just found out that my teenage daughter has been engaging in prostitution to support herself and her two year-old child. As her father (and a christian), I am mortified by the thought of my little girl selling her body and her soul. I am naturally very concerned about the effects this will have on […]
What Should I Say To Her?
My spouse of 7 years surprised me when, after I got sick, she took care of our kids and me for the week. I mean totally. For the life of me I never imagined this could happen. She does a wonderful job managing our kids, and she has repeatedly said our 2 are all she […]
