Sexual Pleasure
When is sexual pleasure with multiple partners considered to be promiscuity The definition of the word promiscuous as well as the inference implies that of someone whom is indiscriminate, casual and somehow haphazard or irresponsible. The judgement within this adjective is completely contrary to the word and meaning of pleasure. We can certainly choose to […]
Not Feeling Confident & Sexy
I have been 60 lbs over weight for most of my adult life. Last year on my 37th birthday at the strong suggestion of my MD I began a diet and exercise program and have lost almost all of the weight. My friends and family told me that I was going to have more confidence […]
My 10 Year Old Daughter
My daughter is 10 years old, in fifth grade and is very much her own person. She does not appear interested in what the ”popular girls” are wearing or what they are doing socially on the weekends. She floats in and out of different groups without a best or close friend and seems very happy […]
She Has A Right To know
I live in New Jersey and take the train into NYC for my job. My co-worker lives in NYC and we have a nice rapport with one another. We casually chat about our spouses but I have never met her husband, only seen photos of him on her desk. I recently saw him in my […]
Am I Just Being Naive
My fiance is going to Las Vegas for his friends bachelor party and despite what my girlfriends say about “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” I am not at all worried. Am I being as naive as they tell me I am being ? It is funny how everyone, especially our friends often have […]
I Am Stuck
We are two young professional girls living in a big apartment in the city and only one of us is having a good time. My roommate is out every night with different friends and on the weekends always manages to hook up with some great guy. Then there is me. I am home everyday after work […]
How To Bring Her Comfort
A dear friend of mine has cancer. She will have surgery soon. What can I say to her that will bring her comfort? I have such a strong feeling that she will be okay. This can be tricky. Sometimes the people in our lives that we care so much about and are experiencing disease and […]
A Great Mystery
Why do people stay in miserable relationships for so long and sometimes forever? Great question! Some people do not even realize that they are miserable and because they have been at it for so long are unaware that there may be something better for them. Oh, they look out into the world and can sometimes […]
Not Another Fling
I met up with a guy last night that I’ve known for over two years but haven’t seen him in almost a year. He had just ended a live-in relationship with someone two weeks ago, although he said he had decided he was “out” of the relationship six months ago. He was sweet and we had […]
Am I Turning Gay
I am a junior in college and for as long as I can remember I have only been interested in guys. I was involved in 2 long term relationships that both ended in friendships. The thing is that lately I have find myself feeling physically attracted to girls. I have friends that are lesbians and […]
Not Always But Sometimes…
Not always, but sometimes I choose foods that are not the healthiest of choices. I know it, because after I eat them, I feel tired. Is this a way that I “don’t take care of myself” or “abuse” myself? I ask because I am trying to attract my ideal mate and I wonder if I am […]
What Should I Do?
We are empty nesters and my husband does not talk with me. He talks at me and sometimes to me but this is mostly happening when his head is buried in the newspaper, or when he is on his computer or surfing through emails and text messages on his phone. I have suggested to him […]
Totally Devastated
I caught my wife cheating on me last Valentine’s Day and we are now divorced. I threw myself into my job and thought that I had put it all behind me. As the February 14th holiday approaches I am obsessed with the details of that day that I found them together. I cannot stop myself […]
How Can I Kick This Habit
I sometimes experiences a withdrawal-like feeling when I haven’t spoken to certain people in a few days. Sometimes it can be one or two days, sometimes more. It feels like what I experienced when I quit cigarette smoking many years ago. My nicotine fix was obviously a sort of drug-dependency. So what about this need to verbally connect […]
Shocked And Ashamed
I am shocked. I feel ashamed. I am well known in a popular industry and stunned to find that my son, a “hunk” in another big medium, got fully unclothed and aroused on a well-watched show. By all appearances there was no stand-in person. I want nothing to do with my son, the show, and […]
Open Marriage
What are your views on open marriage? Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. If this is what you mean by an open marriage then I believe that it is quite possible to have […]
Losing Myself
I am really on top of my game when it comes to taking care of myself, as long as I am not in any kind of intimate relationship. As soon as I get involved with someone that I care about I seem to lose myself and focus all of my attention on the other person […]
Missing Someone?
Sometimes if you haven’t seen or spoken to someone, you think of them and “miss” them. Sometimes that missing can be a reminder of how much fun you have with them. Sometimes that missing can feel painful. So, what is this “missing” really about? I think it natural to want to be with someone you […]
My 15 Year Old Daughter
My 15 year old daughter is bright, beautiful and has a good head on her shoulders. The group of friends that she is running with these days are all beginning to experiment with marijuana. I totally trust her but am wondering if I should talk to her and if so what should I say? How […]
Moment Of Truth
I have run out of reasons to stay in my marriage of 18 years. Our daughter leaves for college in the fall and this is the “moment of truth” for me. The funny thing is that I thought that this opportunity I have been focusing on for so long would feel different- more exciting, and […]
All Consumed?
I am consumed with a women that does not even know that I exist. We work together in the same large office and I spend a fair amount of time finding any excuse possible to pass by her desk on the way to the break room which is also on the way to the bathroom […]
My Past
I have come a million miles from the sexually, physically and emotionally abusive home that I was raised in. I have severed all ties with both of my parents, have moved to a different state and have spent many, many years finding me again. The last long term relationship that I was in was for […]
