Why Do I Do This?
Why do I find myself doing the same things to others that were done to me by my father that I swore to myself I would never do? What we know is not who we are. Our experiences with and from our family of origin often becomes what we know and most often has little […]
The Marriage Is Over
How do I stop blaming myself for the end of my marriage Lets do the math. I would give myself one minute for everyday that I was in my marriage to blame myself, hate myself, berate myself. So if you have been married 20 years that comes out to about 7,300 minutes or 121.66 hours. […]
Estranged From My Grown Children
My grown kids haven’t spoken to me in 2 years, as the holidays approach I get very sad they are not in my life. How am I going to get through the next 2 weeks? Any suggestions? I can imagine how difficult this is for you. Please understand that It can only be their own disconnection from […]
Stuck In Self Sabotage
I have identified my patterns of self sabotage and that is as far as I ever get. I am stuck ! Where is that “small opening of light” that you refer to? I believe that identifying any pattern of thought/behavior about oneself is always a good thing, and I also believe that it can become […]
I Cheated On My Wife
I cheated on my wife and I cannot forgive myself even though she has forgiven me. Can you help me? Forgiveness is one of the keys to your own happiness. When you are able to forgive yourself you are then able to forgive others. Forgiveness is a release. When you can release your feelings of […]
Are Men Just Hardwired To Cheat?
Why do spouses have affairs. Are men just hardwired to cheat? Men are hardwired for sex, sex and more sex. However men are not hardwired to cheat. I believe that when “spouses have affairs” it has more to do with a breakdown in communication with themselves first and then with their spouse or partner. Cheating […]
How Can I Tell My Kids Without Worrying Them?
I wish to let my kids know that I missed my payment arrangements for Medicare at the bank. I was ill on the day I was supposed to go there. Medicare is my only insurance. It has been six months now. I no longer have it. I pay for my pills and appointments with cash. […]
Just Not Happy
I want to be happy for others, but I am not. What does that say about me? Am I just a horrible friend? No, I mean yes. Let me explain. You are not a “horrible friend” to others and yes in this moment your unhappiness for others quite clearly indicates that you have become a […]
Am I Just Tripping?
I work at Starbucks as a barista and everyday the same very hot girl comes in and gives me her coffee order, but she like looks deep into my eyes and touches my soul and I feel like a strong connection to her. I don’t even know this person but is it possible that the […]
I AM 18
I am 18. I am a pretty happy person and I live in a pretty unhappy home. I do not know what to do. My parents will not allow me to move out until I turn 21, they just told me. When I ask other people what to do until then, I always get “go […]
Home For The Holidays WTF
The holidays are a really weird time for me. I have a lot of fun with my family but sometimes the dis-function is way to overwhelming. Most recently, during thanksgiving, I kept asking myself “who the fuck are these people?” How can I maintain a connection with my family (who I often feel totally at […]
My New Sexual Identity
I am recently divorced, with primary custody of our teenagers, and I do not know how to let my former spouse and teens know that I identify myself as bisexual. This is new for me as well as for them. Please advise. Thank you! I would like to suggest to you that before you discuss […]
Making Sex Just Sex
After I sleep with a man I feel emotionally bonded to them, even if we are not in a relationship, why does this happen and is there any way for me to make sex just sex? I would like to offer this definition of sex: Sex is the expressing and receiving of physical and emotional […]
Is He Having An Affair
I just found out that my husband of almost 7 years has been having an online long distance relationship with another married women. He promises me that they have never seen each other in person which I actually believe because my husband works from home and does not travel. My question is this? Does his […]
