My 10 Year Old Daughter
My daughter is 10 years old, in fifth grade and is very much her own person. She does not appear interested in what the ”popular girls” are wearing or what they are doing socially on the weekends. She floats in and out of different groups without a best or close friend and seems very happy […]
She Has A Right To know
I live in New Jersey and take the train into NYC for my job. My co-worker lives in NYC and we have a nice rapport with one another. We casually chat about our spouses but I have never met her husband, only seen photos of him on her desk. I recently saw him in my […]
How To Bring Her Comfort
A dear friend of mine has cancer. She will have surgery soon. What can I say to her that will bring her comfort? I have such a strong feeling that she will be okay. This can be tricky. Sometimes the people in our lives that we care so much about and are experiencing disease and […]
A Great Mystery
Why do people stay in miserable relationships for so long and sometimes forever? Great question! Some people do not even realize that they are miserable and because they have been at it for so long are unaware that there may be something better for them. Oh, they look out into the world and can sometimes […]
Our Child Is A Bully
We have a big problem with our 12 year old son who has become a regular bully at school. We have been called in to meet with the principal and the school counselor and they are both recommending that we take our son to therapy so that this issue can be addressed. My husband and […]
What Should I Do?
We are empty nesters and my husband does not talk with me. He talks at me and sometimes to me but this is mostly happening when his head is buried in the newspaper, or when he is on his computer or surfing through emails and text messages on his phone. I have suggested to him […]
Totally Devastated
I caught my wife cheating on me last Valentine’s Day and we are now divorced. I threw myself into my job and thought that I had put it all behind me. As the February 14th holiday approaches I am obsessed with the details of that day that I found them together. I cannot stop myself […]
Am I Going Crazy?
My wife, the love of my life died 2 years ago in a car accident. We worked together, played together and her breath was my breath. I cannot mourn for her because I can still feel her, smell her, hear her. My friends and family are very concerned about me and think that I am […]
Shocked And Ashamed
I am shocked. I feel ashamed. I am well known in a popular industry and stunned to find that my son, a “hunk” in another big medium, got fully unclothed and aroused on a well-watched show. By all appearances there was no stand-in person. I want nothing to do with my son, the show, and […]
Open Marriage
What are your views on open marriage? Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. If this is what you mean by an open marriage then I believe that it is quite possible to have […]
My 15 Year Old Daughter
My 15 year old daughter is bright, beautiful and has a good head on her shoulders. The group of friends that she is running with these days are all beginning to experiment with marijuana. I totally trust her but am wondering if I should talk to her and if so what should I say? How […]
Moment Of Truth
I have run out of reasons to stay in my marriage of 18 years. Our daughter leaves for college in the fall and this is the “moment of truth” for me. The funny thing is that I thought that this opportunity I have been focusing on for so long would feel different- more exciting, and […]
My Past
I have come a million miles from the sexually, physically and emotionally abusive home that I was raised in. I have severed all ties with both of my parents, have moved to a different state and have spent many, many years finding me again. The last long term relationship that I was in was for […]
As Her Father And A Christian?
I just found out that my teenage daughter has been engaging in prostitution to support herself and her two year-old child. As her father (and a christian), I am mortified by the thought of my little girl selling her body and her soul. I am naturally very concerned about the effects this will have on […]
What Should I Say To Her?
My spouse of 7 years surprised me when, after I got sick, she took care of our kids and me for the week. I mean totally. For the life of me I never imagined this could happen. She does a wonderful job managing our kids, and she has repeatedly said our 2 are all she […]
Why Do I Do This?
Why do I find myself doing the same things to others that were done to me by my father that I swore to myself I would never do? What we know is not who we are. Our experiences with and from our family of origin often becomes what we know and most often has little […]
The Marriage Is Over
How do I stop blaming myself for the end of my marriage Lets do the math. I would give myself one minute for everyday that I was in my marriage to blame myself, hate myself, berate myself. So if you have been married 20 years that comes out to about 7,300 minutes or 121.66 hours. […]
Estranged From My Grown Children
My grown kids haven’t spoken to me in 2 years, as the holidays approach I get very sad they are not in my life. How am I going to get through the next 2 weeks? Any suggestions? I can imagine how difficult this is for you. Please understand that It can only be their own disconnection from […]
I Cheated On My Wife
I cheated on my wife and I cannot forgive myself even though she has forgiven me. Can you help me? Forgiveness is one of the keys to your own happiness. When you are able to forgive yourself you are then able to forgive others. Forgiveness is a release. When you can release your feelings of […]
How Can I Tell My Kids Without Worrying Them?
I wish to let my kids know that I missed my payment arrangements for Medicare at the bank. I was ill on the day I was supposed to go there. Medicare is my only insurance. It has been six months now. I no longer have it. I pay for my pills and appointments with cash. […]
How Can I Parent Her?
My daughter can be so happy & open one minute and disrespectful with a bad tone in her voice the next. Usually she will turn nice if she wants something. Then when I try to help her organize herself so she can study better for tests or projects she turns nasty. It seems that past experiences […]
I AM 18
I am 18. I am a pretty happy person and I live in a pretty unhappy home. I do not know what to do. My parents will not allow me to move out until I turn 21, they just told me. When I ask other people what to do until then, I always get “go […]
Home For The Holidays WTF
The holidays are a really weird time for me. I have a lot of fun with my family but sometimes the dis-function is way to overwhelming. Most recently, during thanksgiving, I kept asking myself “who the fuck are these people?” How can I maintain a connection with my family (who I often feel totally at […]
