Totally Devastated
I caught my wife cheating on me last Valentine’s Day and we are now divorced. I threw myself into my job and thought that I had put it all behind me. As the February 14th holiday approaches I am obsessed with the details of that day that I found them together. I cannot stop myself […]
How Can I Kick This Habit
I sometimes experiences a withdrawal-like feeling when I haven’t spoken to certain people in a few days. Sometimes it can be one or two days, sometimes more. It feels like what I experienced when I quit cigarette smoking many years ago. My nicotine fix was obviously a sort of drug-dependency. So what about this need to verbally connect […]
Am I Going Crazy?
My wife, the love of my life died 2 years ago in a car accident. We worked together, played together and her breath was my breath. I cannot mourn for her because I can still feel her, smell her, hear her. My friends and family are very concerned about me and think that I am […]
Shocked And Ashamed
I am shocked. I feel ashamed. I am well known in a popular industry and stunned to find that my son, a “hunk” in another big medium, got fully unclothed and aroused on a well-watched show. By all appearances there was no stand-in person. I want nothing to do with my son, the show, and […]
Open Marriage
What are your views on open marriage? Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. If this is what you mean by an open marriage then I believe that it is quite possible to have […]
Losing Myself
I am really on top of my game when it comes to taking care of myself, as long as I am not in any kind of intimate relationship. As soon as I get involved with someone that I care about I seem to lose myself and focus all of my attention on the other person […]
Missing Someone?
Sometimes if you haven’t seen or spoken to someone, you think of them and “miss” them. Sometimes that missing can be a reminder of how much fun you have with them. Sometimes that missing can feel painful. So, what is this “missing” really about? I think it natural to want to be with someone you […]
My 15 Year Old Daughter
My 15 year old daughter is bright, beautiful and has a good head on her shoulders. The group of friends that she is running with these days are all beginning to experiment with marijuana. I totally trust her but am wondering if I should talk to her and if so what should I say? How […]
Moment Of Truth
I have run out of reasons to stay in my marriage of 18 years. Our daughter leaves for college in the fall and this is the “moment of truth” for me. The funny thing is that I thought that this opportunity I have been focusing on for so long would feel different- more exciting, and […]
All Consumed?
I am consumed with a women that does not even know that I exist. We work together in the same large office and I spend a fair amount of time finding any excuse possible to pass by her desk on the way to the break room which is also on the way to the bathroom […]
Making This More Comfortable for Me?
I love my new apartment! It’s gorgeous, bright, airy, and spacious. My roommate seems nice enough, but never talks. If she does, it’s two word answers or just very matter of fact and short. When we have to communicate over e-mail, she gives the briefest of responses.I’m not sure if she’s moody, curt, or just […]
New Year’s Eve?
I am a 25 year old professional in the financial world. I work hard and party even harder. I go out most weekends with girlfriends to clubs and bars and just let loose, literally. It is not unusual for me to wake up in a mans bed who I met that evening. My M. O. […]
As Her Father And A Christian?
I just found out that my teenage daughter has been engaging in prostitution to support herself and her two year-old child. As her father (and a christian), I am mortified by the thought of my little girl selling her body and her soul. I am naturally very concerned about the effects this will have on […]
What Should I Say To Her?
My spouse of 7 years surprised me when, after I got sick, she took care of our kids and me for the week. I mean totally. For the life of me I never imagined this could happen. She does a wonderful job managing our kids, and she has repeatedly said our 2 are all she […]
Being In Our Joy
Yesterday I reached out and with all my heart, I asked the Universe to let me hear from a friend that I hadn’t heard from. I literally put my head in my hands, my head down at my desk at work, and closed my eyes and felt so deeply how great it would be to […]
Why Do I Do This?
Why do I find myself doing the same things to others that were done to me by my father that I swore to myself I would never do? What we know is not who we are. Our experiences with and from our family of origin often becomes what we know and most often has little […]
The Marriage Is Over
How do I stop blaming myself for the end of my marriage Lets do the math. I would give myself one minute for everyday that I was in my marriage to blame myself, hate myself, berate myself. So if you have been married 20 years that comes out to about 7,300 minutes or 121.66 hours. […]
Estranged From My Grown Children
My grown kids haven’t spoken to me in 2 years, as the holidays approach I get very sad they are not in my life. How am I going to get through the next 2 weeks? Any suggestions? I can imagine how difficult this is for you. Please understand that It can only be their own disconnection from […]
Stuck In Self Sabotage
I have identified my patterns of self sabotage and that is as far as I ever get. I am stuck ! Where is that “small opening of light” that you refer to? I believe that identifying any pattern of thought/behavior about oneself is always a good thing, and I also believe that it can become […]
I Cheated On My Wife
I cheated on my wife and I cannot forgive myself even though she has forgiven me. Can you help me? Forgiveness is one of the keys to your own happiness. When you are able to forgive yourself you are then able to forgive others. Forgiveness is a release. When you can release your feelings of […]
Are Men Just Hardwired To Cheat?
Why do spouses have affairs. Are men just hardwired to cheat? Men are hardwired for sex, sex and more sex. However men are not hardwired to cheat. I believe that when “spouses have affairs” it has more to do with a breakdown in communication with themselves first and then with their spouse or partner. Cheating […]
How Can I Tell My Kids Without Worrying Them?
I wish to let my kids know that I missed my payment arrangements for Medicare at the bank. I was ill on the day I was supposed to go there. Medicare is my only insurance. It has been six months now. I no longer have it. I pay for my pills and appointments with cash. […]
How Can I Parent Her?
My daughter can be so happy & open one minute and disrespectful with a bad tone in her voice the next. Usually she will turn nice if she wants something. Then when I try to help her organize herself so she can study better for tests or projects she turns nasty. It seems that past experiences […]
